We need to rethink how marriage is structured. The rules of the game of life have changed but marriage remains the same
I guess it depends on what state you live in, but in most states the rules have changed. Where I live, they’ve made it hard to get alimony and easy to get 50/50 custody.
Maybe you should leave the US before you make blanket assumptions about marriage. Stay off the internet and have a real conversation with a person before you decide the current “zeitgeist”
Do you have a suggestion for a better social structure to raise children in a stable environment?
This is the problem and the only real reason to get married (you want to have kids). Marriage doesn’t make sense because finding the right match is highly improbable. And even if you’re one of the lucky ones, sexual interest in that person declines over time. I firmly believe this is why most marriages fail today.
Somehow moral movements grow with inverse responses to how bad things get. I would not count out the new generations becoming mobilized against degeneracy.
Society no longer supports the nuclear family. When a typical young adult "sleeps" with multiple random people for many years, and is affirmed in that intemperance, what makes him or her think that monogamy will be simple? The opponents of birth control and abortion predicted this result many, many years ago.
Do you have a suggestion for a better social structure to raise children in a stable environment?
This is the problem and the only real reason to get married (you want to have kids). Marriage doesn’t make sense because finding the right match is highly improbable. And even if you’re one of the lucky ones, sexual interest in that person declines over time. I firmly believe this is why most marriages fail today.
Lots of marriages fail today but actually most don't by a slim margin. But even if most marriages do end up failing you're left with one very good explanation as to why people still do it. Kids from two parent homes as a group do better on every measure of well being than kids who are raised by single parents.
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It's more likely that a married guy ain't getting much/any action and if he is he's probably not even attracted to it and has to imagine it being his favorite porn star or coworker to get off. I actually know of a married guy who cheated on his not any longer attractive wife and he cried right after the sax, not because of the cheating shame, but because it had been so long and he was traumatized he'd become an incel as it was such a relief to finally get some.
Who opposes birth control and abortion, catholics?
Catholicism opposes direct abortion, the intended killing of an unborn or partially born human being. An indirect abortion is the unintended killing of an unborn human being due to, say, treatment for an ectopic pregnancy or uterine cancer. Catholicism opposes the former and tolerates the latter because the former deliberately kills an innocent human being when two would otherwise survive whereas the latter almost always results in the death of only one human being when two would otherwise very likely die.
Catholic teaching opposes artificial birth control. By artificial I mean methods that are discordant with the telos of vaginal intercourse - its unitive (think bonding) and procreative (think babies) functions. Artificial in this sense has little to do with manmade vs found-in-nature sensibilities. Catholic teaching says the natural tides of fertility should not be impaired. The Catholic Church permits, even encourages, Natural Family Planning (NFP) methods such as the Creighton model, the Billings Ovulation Method, or a number of other methods, some of which were devised at its urging, that do not involve hormonal poisons or anatomical monkey-wrenches to impair fertility. These NFP methods do require strong wills and cooperation between the husband and wife. They are fertility awareness methods that can be used not only to avoid pregnancy but also to time intercourse to achieve pregnancy. They help to identify the fertile window of a woman's cycle and allow the husband and wife to time intercourse to avoid the fertile window to avoid pregnancy or to avail themselves of the fertile window to achieve pregnancy.
Who opposes birth control and abortion, catholics?
Catholicism opposes direct abortion, the intended killing of an unborn or partially born human being. An indirect abortion is the unintended killing of an unborn human being due to, say, treatment for an ectopic pregnancy or uterine cancer. Catholicism opposes the former and tolerates the latter because the former deliberately kills an innocent human being when two would otherwise survive whereas the latter almost always results in the death of only one human being when two would otherwise very likely die.
Catholic teaching opposes artificial birth control. By artificial I mean methods that are discordant with the telos of vaginal intercourse - its unitive (think bonding) and procreative (think babies) functions. Artificial in this sense has little to do with manmade vs found-in-nature sensibilities. Catholic teaching says the natural tides of fertility should not be impaired. The Catholic Church permits, even encourages, Natural Family Planning (NFP) methods such as the Creighton model, the Billings Ovulation Method, or a number of other methods, some of which were devised at its urging, that do not involve hormonal poisons or anatomical monkey-wrenches to impair fertility. These NFP methods do require strong wills and cooperation between the husband and wife. They are fertility awareness methods that can be used not only to avoid pregnancy but also to time intercourse to achieve pregnancy. They help to identify the fertile window of a woman's cycle and allow the husband and wife to time intercourse to avoid the fertile window to avoid pregnancy or to avail themselves of the fertile window to achieve pregnancy.