"Hi, you may not recognize me, but my name is Ben Dover and I also ran today. I finished nearly 11 minutes before you in 26 minutes - a new PR! Cool shoes - how do you like those <whatever shoe she is wearing>? Want to go grab an iced latte or avocado toast and go over our races?"
Yes, you should cold approach women, but with some caveats. I'm not sure how parkrun works, but the best scenario is to gradually get to know someone (is parkrun a regular series?). Start by saying hi, then formally introducing yourself. Gauge the situation in terms of friendliness versus potential interest. Obviously, this requires repeat interactions with people.
Women judge men less on appearance than vice versa, which means that a good personality, humor, and having your life together can increase your appeal to a woman who gets to know you. This doesn't meant that women will never respond positively to a one-and-done overture; it simply means that you improve your chances by hanging around the same women regularly (provided you have a good personality and a stable life).
Yes, you should cold approach women, but with some caveats. I'm not sure how parkrun works, but the best scenario is to gradually get to know someone (is parkrun a regular series?). Start by saying hi, then formally introducing yourself. Gauge the situation in terms of friendliness versus potential interest. Obviously, this requires repeat interactions with people.
Women judge men less on appearance than vice versa, which means that a good personality, humor, and having your life together can increase your appeal to a woman who gets to know you. This doesn't meant that women will never respond positively to a one-and-done overture; it simply means that you improve your chances by hanging around the same women regularly (provided you have a good personality and a stable life).
The personality lie. It's actually how you make them feel is the truth but they'll dress it up as personality. What place do nice guys finish again? Last with women.
Yesterday a mixed feelings and race woman was waiting at a bus stop while I pulled in nearby at a pizza place. I was driving one of my better vehicles but not the chick magnet car I own which is paid off and not on not on a line of credit/lien like 95%+ of the other vehicles you see.
I thought, I wish I could give her a free ride but then again it may be weird asking since that idiot Ted Bundy ruined that kind of usually innocent stuff for both men and women.
But then she came in the pizza place which was not a front by the way it is a real pizza place business. Wow. Her booty was swallowing up her shorts into her sensational derriere and it was a sight to behold. She clearly was dressing provocatively. I seen her look at me when she thought I was distracted and it was safe. She was checking me out. The Doughboy at the pizza place then started conversing her so I left without having the right opportunity to commence our strictly non platonic relationship. Hope to see her again and close the deal. To be continued.
The personality lie. It's actually how you make them feel is the truth but they'll dress it up as personality. What place do nice guys finish again? Last with women.
Why are you giving advice on this topic? Would you take advice on running from a 30min 5k guy?
Flirting if you're attractive. Harassment if you're not attractive. Same behavior though. The world is a strange place.
Sort of accurate. The OP should check out the youtube channel, Hoe Math. This guy does a pretty good job of breaking down gender differences.
The truth is that a man has to be super duper hot to pique the average woman's interest on an intitial meeting. But, the differences between women and men in terms of partner selection are not just quantitative (i.e. women are pickier), they are also qualitative (women assess men on a wider range of criteria/are less visually-oriented). A man can move up in attractiveness rating by showing off his other qualities over time.
Greater pickiness also comes with a touchier "creep meter." Women are on the lookout for sleezy/creepy men and are more easily disgusted.
I suspect that younger generations haven't had as many opportunities to hone the in-person social skills required to successfully court one another. Yes, women have had to deal with cold-approach creeps for a long time, but it worries me that young men may have lost the courage to even attempt to woo women because they're too worried about rejection or being accused of harassment.
Dude...drop your discord. I'd like to have a word or two with you. Since you probably won't, as it isn't a prudent thing to do...just know this: those 10 miles made you a better person. No thread or post in a thread on this forum has ever done that.
Talking to a woman you don't know is officially sexual harassment according to the left-wing consensus, which LetsRun is now part of.
This is the kind of thing guys say when they are either unable or unwilling to respond to social cues like a normal human being. No one will fault you for talking to them as long as you move on once it’s clear that they’re not interested.
If you pay attention to a girl’s body language, you’ll literally be able to tell whether you have the red light or green light within a second or two of saying hello. Simply respond to this information like a normal person and no one will accuse you of harassment.
Continuing to flirt with someone who is communicating lack of interest is rude and annoying even if it doesn’t rise to the level of harassment. We’ve all been in a situation where we’re trying to break away from a conversation, but the other party isn’t taking the hint. Have you ever had a family member or coworker who insists on continuing long winded stories even though you’re leaning toward the door? That’s exactly what you’re doing when you keep flirting with someone who isn’t returning your energy. You’re refusing to allow a person to politely disengage, and it’s annoying.
Flirting if you're attractive. Harassment if you're not attractive. Same behavior though. The world is a strange place.
Sort of accurate. The OP should check out the youtube channel, Hoe Math. This guy does a pretty good job of breaking down gender differences.
The truth is that a man has to be super duper hot to pique the average woman's interest on an intitial meeting. But, the differences between women and men in terms of partner selection are not just quantitative (i.e. women are pickier), they are also qualitative (women assess men on a wider range of criteria/are less visually-oriented). A man can move up in attractiveness rating by showing off his other qualities over time.
Greater pickiness also comes with a touchier "creep meter." Women are on the lookout for sleezy/creepy men and are more easily disgusted.
I suspect that younger generations haven't had as many opportunities to hone the in-person social skills required to successfully court one another. Yes, women have had to deal with cold-approach creeps for a long time, but it worries me that young men may have lost the courage to even attempt to woo women because they're too worried about rejection or being accused of harassment.
Just chiming in to say that if you start watching a YouTube channel called “Hoe Math” to better understand women you are basically ensuring that you will die alone, having never or rarely known a woman’s warmth.
"No one will fault you for talking to them as long as you move on once it’s clear that they’re not interested. If you pay attention to a girl’s body language, you’ll literally be able to tell whether you have the red light or green light within a second or two of saying hello. Simply respond to this information like a normal person and no one will accuse you of harassment. Continuing to flirt with someone who is communicating lack of interest is rude and annoying even if it doesn’t rise to the level of harassment."
Exactly! Smile and say hello. Ask her how her run was. Maybe mention the weather if it is exceptionally nice or severe. Do NOT ask her time. She'll either smile and respond in kind or signal that she's not interested in talking. If not then move on. Yes, it's a blow to the ego but you'll get over it. Oh, and if she is interested in talking to you that doesn't mean she wants to date you. But maybe her friend will. Keep a good thought.