i would not assume it is you. if you want good TF coaching at the college level you need better pay and the sort of scrutiny that college football teams get. people know when someone is a "lane kiffin" in college football. they see the decisionmaking. they see the recruiting classes. they see the results. they are well educated about what bad football or a waste of talent looks like. TF, not so much. you can almost by statistical luck get a few conference winners on a team. across a few dozen events, you should have a couple doing nothing. you can tout them like you did something.
no, to evaluate TF coaching you need to dig into, what came in, what went out, how much did the team progress, do we breed an unusual bunch of competitive kids, even if recruiting has an off year? is success constant? does everyone improve? does the team like the coach? does the team grow as people? that takes digging into details and watching. how many colleges watch their TF/XC coaches like hawks like it's college football?
i played soccer and ran TF in D3. my personal assessment with the exception of the guy hired senior year for soccer, the coaching was inferior to youth select soccer and my HS TF coach. both primary coaches were also jerks. the senior year soccer guy was a nice dude and could coach. he was a former HS guy.
the soccer guy could recruit, and the TF guy tended to focus the majority of his attention on a handful of kids who showed up ready to compete for conference. this is what props up many a program, is recruiting.
to me the test of a good coach is do a lot of kids improve across the board. any idiot can saddle up the best recruits and then put "coached ____ conference champions" on their resume -- even if that's most of the team points they get, and they don't make nationals, and everyone else plateaus or regresses.
i felt like training at the college level was excessive and counterproductive. the idea is not to peak week 1 off some insane preseason workload. the idea is not be tired at every meet but conference. the idea is not have half the team on the training table midseason where the travel roster shrinks way down.
but if your skill set is recruiting, you just shovel off the breakage into the trash can and recruit a new class. the jerk coach runs off or breaks a bunch of kids. basically patches the losses next year instead of adding and improving. since the team game is about accumulation -- a class atop a class atop a class etc. -- the team just sits mid-standings all the time.