Doesn't work that way, we all have what works best for us not what is expected by others. Marriage isn't for everyone, some prefer to not go that route, if they are happy that really is al that matters.
no ages. i think marriage is gonna be awesome for anybody IF (big if) they find the right person. Some are ready at 20, some not til 40 or even later. Not everybody will find the right person. Some get married to the wrong person. Just try your best to not be that person. If you don't find the right person, let it go. Learn to be happy with yourself.
I could get married to any of several women ASAP but I just prefer not to. I can be in relations with a woman and not do marriage.
It is a wise choice by a man with assets/money to not get married. He can be get in a relationship without doing marriage. Marriage is essentially allowing the government into your relationship in a 3-way fest. It is more convenient for them to track and control people via marriage.
Keep in mind, women glorify marriage because they're security seeking beings and it benefits them. This is why this thread even exists--because shallow or insecure people like to shame or be indoctrinated to shame what is inconvenient for themselves.
But does marriage benefit men? Generally, not. Now given the disgustingly high divorce rate, it's more profitable for a man to put half his assets on red or black at roulette and potentially double up than risk gaining nothing BUT potentially losing that whole half via marriage. That is a fact and a frightening one. Now this particular argument requires logic and not emotionally charged rhetoric, that most women or family oriented men would put forth in a biased manner.
Why do people buy into the artificial construct that is called "marriage"?
It is a legal term which makes your personal relationship the government's business. Why in the world would anyone willingly make their own private relationship officially the business of the state? Seems bizarre to me.
Why do people buy into the artificial construct that is called "marriage"?
It is a legal term which makes your personal relationship the government's business. Why in the world would anyone willingly make their own private relationship officially the business of the state? Seems bizarre to me.
The same reason people dump 50k on a wedding and honeymoon. They feel better about it by fortifying a social construct amongst their like-minded peers. This is exactly what the institution desires. Indoctrinated minds glorifying their scheme.
I could get married to any of several women ASAP but I just prefer not to. I can be in relations with a woman and not do marriage.
It is a wise choice by a man with assets/money to not get married. He can be get in a relationship without doing marriage. Marriage is essentially allowing the government into your relationship in a 3-way fest. It is more convenient for them to track and control people via marriage.
Keep in mind, women glorify marriage because they're security seeking beings and it benefits them. This is why this thread even exists--because shallow or insecure people like to shame or be indoctrinated to shame what is inconvenient for themselves.
But does marriage benefit men? Generally, not. Now given the disgustingly high divorce rate, it's more profitable for a man to put half his assets on red or black at roulette and potentially double up than risk gaining nothing BUT potentially losing that whole half via marriage. That is a fact and a frightening one. Now this particular argument requires logic and not emotionally charged rhetoric, that most women or family oriented men would put forth in a biased manner.
Nice, cope. The purpose of life for a man is to find a partner to give birth to and raise his kids with. That won’t happen for most men unless they get married. An unmarried man after a certain age is seen as a social parish and a failure
I could get married to any of several women ASAP but I just prefer not to. I can be in relations with a woman and not do marriage.
It is a wise choice by a man with assets/money to not get married. He can be get in a relationship without doing marriage. Marriage is essentially allowing the government into your relationship in a 3-way fest. It is more convenient for them to track and control people via marriage.
Keep in mind, women glorify marriage because they're security seeking beings and it benefits them. This is why this thread even exists--because shallow or insecure people like to shame or be indoctrinated to shame what is inconvenient for themselves.
But does marriage benefit men? Generally, not. Now given the disgustingly high divorce rate, it's more profitable for a man to put half his assets on red or black at roulette and potentially double up than risk gaining nothing BUT potentially losing that whole half via marriage. That is a fact and a frightening one. Now this particular argument requires logic and not emotionally charged rhetoric, that most women or family oriented men would put forth in a biased manner.
Nice, cope. The purpose of life for a man is to find a partner to give birth to and raise his kids with. That won’t happen for most men unless they get married. An unmarried man after a certain age is seen as a social parish and a failure
there is some truth to what you say,
but the lion doesn't concern itself with the opinions of sheep
Why do people buy into the artificial construct that is called "marriage"?
It is a legal term which makes your personal relationship the government's business. Why in the world would anyone willingly make their own private relationship officially the business of the state? Seems bizarre to me.
The same reason people dump 50k on a wedding and honeymoon. They feel better about it by fortifying a social construct amongst their like-minded peers. This is exactly what the institution desires. Indoctrinated minds glorifying their scheme.
There are couples who have extravagant weddings with huge expensive receptions months or years AFTER they have been legally married. I will be attending one such bash in October for a couple that was married by a JP in April 2022. He is self employed and that was how he got onto her employer provided medical insurance plan.
I think you're conflating divorce with marriage in your assessment. Sure, marriage needs to come before divorce, but they're not the same thing. There's plenty of peer-reviewed evidence to suggest that married men are healthier physically and mentally than single men and that men's leisure time increases upon getting married. Sure, the health thing could be correlative and not causative, but generally married men are doing better than their unmarried peers. If they choose to have kids, which often occurs within the bounds of a marriage, then the man's career receives a boost (google the "fatherhood bonus").
The key is to choose a spouse that you can be happy with for the long haul, not necessarily to avoid marriage at all.