Synopsis is that my gf had a victim mindset, complain constantly about her life, yet just as constantly made excuses to me as to why she could never do anything to address any of the problems in her life. I wrestled with ending the relationship for several months really but finally ended things last night. It did not go well at all. I was honest with her and told her I've gotten to know her well and listed some positive qualities and told her I like an care about her, BUT, that there are a couple things that basically make it impossible for me to view her as a long term partner. She pretty much immediately told me I was crazy and couldn't believe I had the audacity to come into her home and criticize her and said none of this was necessary or wanted (apparently I should have just sent her a text despite it being a moderately serious relationship of 6 months where we saw each other 3-4 days per week).
I tried to keep composure but honestly failed. It was like she was literally incapable of taking any kind of feedback whatsoever, literally incapable of even trying to hear anything I was saying. There was not even a single inch of productive dialogue, and it got slightly ugly for awhile until we basically both just said there's no point in talking and I left and immediately blocked her on all social media because I felt she was acting extremely irrationally.
I said this in my last thread, but I am totally fine with saying I am imperfect and my perspective is obviously not 100% accurate, but I have not had a conversation anywhere near this bad literally in years, and I can also honestly say I don't really have any problems in my life at all other than this (now over) relationship. Meanwhile, she has consistently had problems in just about every area of her life since we started dating. I tried to bring this up and told her at some point you have to take a step back and reflect on the results you're getting in your life compared to the results other people are getting in their life, but she wouldn't listen. Everything was my fault, and I was crazy for trying to talk about anything.
She's been having tons of problems at work and told me she thought she was about to be fired last week, and she told me last fall other people in her life don't talk to her anymore too. I don't have problems like that.
I've honestly been feeling terrible. Can't emphasize enough she has a lot of great qualities and lot of potential, but, man, there are some things seriously wrong there too.