New girlfriend is stressed but taking it out on me. Considering cutting her loose... Need input.

8#=-\'9y8;ilfyuk wrote:

Joe John wrote:

I've been seeing a girl for about 3 months. We really hit it off right from the start, felt like we were a couple

Stupid example, we watched a movie recently where there was a large age gap between the man and the woman who fell for each other with the woman being older, and when talking about the movie after I stated it's pretty uncommon for the woman to be more than 5 years older than the guy in relationships, and she got mad and tried to argue.

There have been good times too, but probably 3 of the last 5 times we hung out were between okay and wtf, and today when we woke up, rather than having morning fun times like we normally do, I felt so disgusted by her behavior from the previous night still that I just got up and left.

So you're 32 years old, can't hold down a relationship with a woman for more than 3 months, start trying to impose dated sexist stereotypes on her while doing a supposedly relaxing activity like watching a film, and sulk the day after if she disagrees with you?

Are you sure she hasn't dumped you already?

You know you can get blow up dolls, or women from countries that have no options, that will never disagree with anything you say, right?

Joe John wrote:

I've been seeing a girl for about 3 months. We really hit it off right from the start, felt like we were a couple almost right away. Been hanging out and doing different things together 2-4X per week over this time period. At first, things were great, we had a lot of fun, and we both laughed a lot. We are both a bit unconventional and nerdy, and I was really viewing this as something that had potential for a serious LTR, but at the same time I kept myself grounded in telling myself it's early, I don't know her that well yet.

Well, fast-forward a little, and the last month has gotten increasingly not great. There have been multiple times now where we have plans to hang out and do something, and she is in a total shet mood for no reason and gets mad and tries to start an argument over totally benign things, like nothing I would expect anyone to be upset about at all. Stupid example, we watched a movie recently where there was a large age gap between the man and the woman who fell for each other with the woman being older, and when talking about the movie after I stated it's pretty uncommon for the woman to be more than 5 years older than the guy in relationships, and she got mad and tried to argue. I felt like I had stated a mundane objective fact, nothing more or less, certainly nothing to get upset about. Like wtf?

There have been good times too, but probably 3 of the last 5 times we hung out were between okay and wtf, and today when we woke up, rather than having morning fun times like we normally do, I felt so disgusted by her behavior from the previous night still that I just got up and left.

So, here's the catch. Her dog, who she had an extremely close relationship with, died unexpectedly about 8 weeks ago, and I know it's affecting her. The holidays are also a really stressful time for her because there are some problems in her family, and Christmas time kind of just makes her feel bad. She is 25 too, kind of young, and I am 32. I get she is stressed and grieving etc, but it feels like she's taking it out on me with zero awareness and for zero reason.

I am thinking right now I am going to try to have a talk with her about all of this and see how it goes, but I'm not feeling very confident about the relationship right now. Behavior this bad this early in the relationship is a pretty bad sign in my experience. Thoughts?

8#=-\'9y8;ilfyuk wrote:

Joe John wrote:

I've been seeing a girl for about 3 months. We really hit it off right from the start, felt like we were a couple

Stupid example, we watched a movie recently where there was a large age gap between the man and the woman who fell for each other with the woman being older, and when talking about the movie after I stated it's pretty uncommon for the woman to be more than 5 years older than the guy in relationships, and she got mad and tried to argue.

There have been good times too, but probably 3 of the last 5 times we hung out were between okay and wtf, and today when we woke up, rather than having morning fun times like we normally do, I felt so disgusted by her behavior from the previous night still that I just got up and left.

So you're 32 years old, can't hold down a relationship with a woman for more than 3 months, start trying to impose dated sexist stereotypes on her while doing a supposedly relaxing activity like watching a film, and sulk the day after if she disagrees with you?

Are you sure she hasn't dumped you already?

You know you can get blow up dolls, or women from countries that have no options, that will never disagree with anything you say, right?