So I've been dating a girl for about 4 months now. She has a lot of good qualities, some being that she is smart and kind and values exercise and fitness. We are both graduate students. However, we were talking recently, and she said one of the reasons she hates graduate school and has no intention of using her degree is that she does not like working and wants to work as little as possible in life. She didn't say the following, but I have also observed that all she seems to really care about is having fun. She doesn't seem to have any real desire to achieve anything, advance her career, get good at a hobby, or anything like that. It's pretty much just all "fun."
What do you guys think about this? I am extremely driven and constantly trying to develop and better myself. I recognize I could probably stand to spend more time trying to just have fun, but the idea of being with someone who doesn't really have anything in their life to invest themselves into and doesn't care doesn't sound very good to me. She also basically has no interest in anything she's doing in graduate school and is just doing it for the credential, which kind of bothers me too. But maybe I shouldn't care? What do you think? We are both ~30 if that matters.