Married Men of Letsrun: How close have you remained with your Best Man?

My best man was my brother. My kid is Trans and he says we are all going to hell because of it. So we don’t talk anymore at all.

For most married men, their current friends are the spouses of their wife’s friends, their coworkers, or other people they see regularly apart from being friends, like dads that also volunteer to coach their kids or whomever is in the local running or cycling group.

And they are perfectly fine with that. I’m still “friends” with guys I used to hang with, but life moves along and I’m way too busy as it is.

I get along with the best man at my wedding just great. He is my cousin, and we talk often and get together and fish when possible, even though we live in different states (including a couple weeks ago). My wife even set him up on a blind date with the woman who is now his wife, so I was best man at his wedding as well.

Had a falling out several years back due to his wife. Mending now but will never be the same.

Agreed. I'm still friends with all of the people in my wedding party. I make a point of visiting them whenever life takes me to their town (maybe 1 or 2 times per year). Some of us do an annual camping trip together. But other than that we don't really keep up day to day (I don't keep up with anyone outside my household and maybe a couple of close coworkers who I see every day).

We've been friends our whole lives. 63 years. We don't see each other much because we live in different parts of the country and don't speak that much because of time differences. We've shared family weddings, births, and deaths and speak once a month and text once a week. We're no longer best friends but are still like brothers.

Very close. He's my youngest brother. He volunteered before I had a chance to ask a friend. How could I say no? He's my brother.

Met mine through mutual friends. I had just graduated and he was still in high school and we hung a few times. We then worked together, were roommates, and have remained close. I was just at his house last week with my family.

Knew mine through most of high school, kept in touch throughout college, was my best man two or three years after I graduated.

Email three or four times a year, basically to keep up and tell the same stories over and over again. This is going on 35 or so years now.

Do you mind if I ask what happened, in general terms? I sort of feel like I've had a similar situation. I'd only get invited over to my friend's house when his wife was out, and if she got home before I left I felt a distinct chill that I was seen as an unwelcome invader in her space. I figure that she probably just wanted to let her hair down when she got home, yet he never warned me off. I used to hang out with both of them somewhat regularly before they got married and had kids.

Friend had an affair with a friend of mine, wife blamed me, led to their divorce, subsequent issues with kids and finances.

Geez, you're right, it could never be the same. Even though you bear no responsibility there, you were a bystander to that situation and she tried her best to force blame on you. Sucks.

My older brother was my best man. I see him pretty often. In fact, I’m still pretty tight with my all of my groomsmen. 4 of us are on a group text that chat daily.

I was the best man in my friend's wedding. We have not seen each other in years. He lives in the south and started a family. I'm single living in the north. I figured we would at least see each other during the holidays since our parents live 15 minutes away from each other, but no.

Never, my best friend was my best man when I got married right out of high school. I ended up getting him a job were I was workings at the time and he was caught stealing merchandise to support his coke habit. Fkn rat 🐀

Luckily we went in very different directions. He is serving life for 8 counts of first degree murder. He always seemed like just a talker, but I guess I misjudged him.

My best man has been one of my best friends since we started playing sports together when we were 5. We went to all the same schools through college. We ran track together from the time we were 5 all the way through college and lived in the same house for 3 years. We went for a run earlier this week and get together often despite him having a young son.

I also still see my other groomsmen on a regular basis. All 5 of them live in the same general area and we get together every few months if not more. Most are married and a couple even have kids but we still manage to meet up for BBQs or hit a brewery with relative frequency. We are all in our early 30s so I am sure that the frequency of these hangouts will decrease over time but I will always make an effort to stay in touch. It seems like many people stop valuing their friendships as they get older and I have never understood that. My wife has a close group of friends too and despite them not living close to each other they still manage to get together a couple times a year.