Brother/best man pushing back on inviting my fiancee to my bachelor party - what are the rules/expectations?

So don’t have a bachelor party. Or just do a casual bar crawl for one evening. Sounds like you’re more into the honeymoon, anyway.

It's not your brother's bachelor party.

The bachelor's party is not for you it's for your bros. Just like the wedding is for your fiance and not for you.

You will be spending the rest of your life with your future wife. You can go 3 days without her. Don't be a selfish prick.

This cabin you speak of wouldn't happen to be on Brokeback Mountain

You're making your buddies go to some lame wedding that's going to cost them way too much money (clothes, hotel, new dress for the woman..) - the least you can for them is give them an excuse to go look at some titties jiggling in their face for a few hours.

Is your fiance having a bachelorette party? If so, I'm on board with the two parties meeting up for a few hours each day (if it's a multi-day thing). But your obsession with spending all the time with her is a bad sign: co-dependence.

Watch Old School and get your mind right. You've got the rest of your life to be a boring loser.

Dear god, go do whatever it is you like to do when you aren't with your lady. Go on a fishing trip with your friends, go rafting, go up to the woods and have a paintball war. You will have the rest of your life to go to bed, bath and beyond on weekends and watch chick flicks.

You are pretty much the embodiment of the boring losers that frequent this board.

The point of the bachelor party is to celebrate one last time as a bachelor. It doesn’t have to be a night of debauchery, but it should not include your soon to be wife.

What you are saying is that you DO NOT want a bachelor party. So refuse to have one, don't make your friends pay for you and your fiance to have a weekend away. That's just you being a bad guy.

Also, you may want to reconsider how you are acting. My friends and I had to do this once for a buddy of ours years ago. He didn't want to spend any time apart from his soon to be wife. We all paid for the stupid weekend away. She started cheating on him within the first year and they split up after two years - he was devastated. Not a surprise to any of us. Unfortunately for him she was heterosexual and we all knew eventually she'd go back to an actual guy. He still talks about her and they've been apart now for ages. Not sure what he expected.

Grow up. If you don't want a bachelor party, just say so. And regardless, don't act like a pathetic dependent loser, it won't go well.

I got married almost 4 years ago, and I can't tell you how nice it would be to have a weekend with the bros from my "bachelor party" - which was just going for an 8 mile run at a state park, swimming, then getting drunk and eating bratwurst at our campsite. Just because you call it a bachelor party doesn't mean it has to involve strippers. Maybe it's different for me because all but one of those guys lives out of state so I hardly ever see them. It's quite possible that I'll never get to hang out with all of them at once ever again. So I guess what I'm trying to say is, now is the one time where you get carte blanche to have your bros hang out with you and do whatever the hell you want. You've got the rest of your life to hang out with your future wife.

What's OPs favorite dessert topping?

Whipped Cream.

What's his favorite movie?

Whiplash.

What's his favorite song?

Whip it.

You sound like a f*ckin simp. Have the bachelor party and don't bring the fiance. You have your whole life to hang out with her.

Came here to say this. The party is for them, not for you.

You're gonna drop off the face of the earth once you get married, and your wife will be the reason why. They want to party with you one last time. You should oblige and under no circumstances should your fiancé be there. Read that last sentence again. Absolutely not.

You have no say in the matter. You are gonna do exactly what they plan for you, like it or not. You're actually pissing me off even suggesting this.

Duddeeee... come on lol. Good gosh.

Don't listen to people saying that you should try to please everyone. It's not their party, it's yours. If they want strippers, let them get engaged and have them. If people are so selfish that they only want to come to do their idea of fun, then screw them.

That said, it seems kinda weird that you're hesitant to even spend a few days away from each other. How much is she pushing to come? Maybe she doesn't trust you, which is a bigger issue. If you're not going to the bachelorette party, there's your answer.

Someone else sorta suggested this, but why not have your parties in the same area and meet up for part of it, but also have some time to do your own activities?

I would tell them to cancel their party or to have it on their own without you being there.

I certainly wouldn't go to it and I wouldn't take my fiancee to it either.