For people here who were in bad marriages for a long time and finally divorced, what made you finally pull the trigger on ending the marriage? Do you have any regrets? Should you have done it sooner? Is life better now? Genuinely curious to hear some stories.
He got caught sexting other girls. It happened once, which I was willing to forgive (everyone makes mistakes). Then he did a second time a few years after. What crossed the line for me was our son in was in one of the photos, and the girl he sexted with was underage apparently.
He got caught sexting other girls. It happened once, which I was willing to forgive (everyone makes mistakes). Then he did a second time a few years after. What crossed the line for me was our son in was in one of the photos, and the girl he sexted with was underage apparently.
That's what the crossed the line for me.
I promise I'll never do it again, hon. I'm a changed man.
She became an alcoholic while I was out running all the time. When the first judge found out he slapped her with a restraining order. Works most of the time. No regrets at all. She has tried to get back with me but the children said she is drinking even more these days. I do drink now and then. Dated a few girls and have gotten laid more in the last eight years then any of the previous ones. Life is beautiful.
He got caught sexting other girls. It happened once, which I was willing to forgive (everyone makes mistakes). Then he did a second time a few years after. What crossed the line for me was our son in was in one of the photos, and the girl he sexted with was underage apparently.
That's what the crossed the line for me.
Do you think he ever physically cheated? Or just sexting? I ask because I've known couples who remained married even after long term sexual affairs, so it's interesting to me that some couples split over things so much less severe. Not judging at all. Just find it interesting.
Two things: (1) staying together "for the kids" was not in fact healthy for the kids. They had two unhappy fighting parents, which is worse. (2) If you're going to be a stay at home spouse, you need to be supportive of your supporting spouses career. You can't not want to work and then also have my job be the entire reason of why your life sucks.
For all of the people commenting "dead bedroom," how dead are we talking? We've dropped steadily over the years (down about 2x a week now), and I'm thinking of calling it quits. However, I don't know if I'm just being unrealistic.
For all of the people commenting "dead bedroom," how dead are we talking? We've dropped steadily over the years (down about 2x a week now), and I'm thinking of calling it quits. However, I don't know if I'm just being unrealistic.
You're married and having sec 2 x a week? That's a freaking win man.
My adult son moved back in with us and he is only working two nights a week until May when he will work four nights.
We only have sex when is working{her rule} so it's down to two nights a week for sex.
Before he moved back in we had sex 4-5 times a week and it was fun{ex I tell her which friends of hers I'd like to have a threesome with and she plays along}
For all of the people commenting "dead bedroom," how dead are we talking? We've dropped steadily over the years (down about 2x a week now), and I'm thinking of calling it quits. However, I don't know if I'm just being unrealistic.
Is this a joke? Most unhappy married people I've known say they have sex like twice per year or not at all. That sounds unbearable to me... Not how life is intended, not healthy at all. I realize things change, but I would think if sex is happening less than once per month, and this goes on for more than a year, the marriage is pretty much dead. But I'm a young(-ish) never-married guy, so what I'm off.
Some of these replies don't sound all that bad... Relatively speaking anyway. I've known couples who didn't even like each other yet "stayed together for the kids" for years. Hard to know what is best.
For all of the people commenting "dead bedroom," how dead are we talking? We've dropped steadily over the years (down about 2x a week now), and I'm thinking of calling it quits. However, I don't know if I'm just being unrealistic.
Is this a joke? Most unhappy married people I've known say they have sex like twice per year or not at all. That sounds unbearable to me... Not how life is intended, not healthy at all. I realize things change, but I would think if sex is happening less than once per month, and this goes on for more than a year, the marriage is pretty much dead. But I'm a young(-ish) never-married guy, so what I'm off.
Some of these replies don't sound all that bad... Relatively speaking anyway. I've known couples who didn't even like each other yet "stayed together for the kids" for years. Hard to know what is best.
Not a joke. Honestly curious, as, after 8 years together, this has been quite a drop-off for us. I guess it's the natural progression though, and maybe my expectations need readjusting...
Is this a joke? Most unhappy married people I've known say they have sex like twice per year or not at all. That sounds unbearable to me... Not how life is intended, not healthy at all. I realize things change, but I would think if sex is happening less than once per month, and this goes on for more than a year, the marriage is pretty much dead. But I'm a young(-ish) never-married guy, so what I'm off.
Some of these replies don't sound all that bad... Relatively speaking anyway. I've known couples who didn't even like each other yet "stayed together for the kids" for years. Hard to know what is best.
Not a joke. Honestly curious, as, after 8 years together, this has been quite a drop-off for us. I guess it's the natural progression though, and maybe my expectations need readjusting...
Nah bud. After 16 years my wife and I still have freaky deaky sex 4+ times a week. COVID helped things quite a bit since we were both at home.
We have 2 kids under 2 and bedroom is virtually non-existent with kids co-sleeping...etc. But we're basically on the same page in terms of getting it back on track once the little one gets out of our freakin' room. I also need to get snipped before we start again because I really don't want a 3rd kid. Took a big detour with the small kids but still genuinely attracted to each other. Divorce would be my nightmare and someone would have to do something pretty outrageous for that to be on the table.