My husband is flirting with another woman in our running club

Collect evidence, get a divorce lawyer and drink more.

2/10.

Only because of the amount of detail. Try again later.

Start flirting back with some of the guys in the club. See how he likes it when the tables are turned.

Who goes to bars to hang out at your age? Your husband sounds like a dud. Count your blessings he's latched on to another woman. Sounds like the perfect answer to your problems. Stop hanging out at bars, stop hanging around w duds and weirdos

My drinking problem has gotten really bad. Sometimes before the group long run I have whiskey (But I don't tell my husband). Then I usually get lost along the route because I'm a bit drunk. Most of the club members are now giving me. hard time because I'm always getting lost and they have to backtrack to find me. One of them wants to boot me out of the group, but that would be catastrophic for my well being.

Your taste in men is really bad just like your drinking habit.

0/10

I was hoping this would be a lot better but it's not even worth posting loony/sarcastic responses.

So sorry to hear about this. Have you discussed your husband's flirting with him? Have you considered seeing a marriage consultant?

Whatever, I would also advise you to keep the therapy, even discuss your situation with your therapist. From my perspective, I would guess that your husband flirting could well be a factor behind your increased alcohol consumption. For example would having a whiskey before your run be attributed to having to run with the lady your husband has been flirting with?

I wouldn't advise you to get one back on your husband by flirting with anyone else. If you resort to vindictiveness this will lead to bitterness. He will most probably double down on his flirting if he sees you flirting with someone else. And what will happen is your alcohol depends will get worse and your marriage will become a war zone.

So I would recommend you chat about this with a therapist who can help you sort out what the root cause of all this is. I am not an expert on this but hopefully my advice has been helpful.

Good luck sister. You'll pull through but important hat you seek out qualified people who know what they are talking about

alchohol dependency not depends

Nobody's asked a million dollar question How about a pic?

Poloroid wrote:

Nobody's asked a million dollar question How about a pic?

Hi Jamin

(This post result in a full thread deletion).

#PrayForJamin

Do you have threshold evidence that he has actually romped with anyone? Because if you do that would be what's called a "game changer." You would have no choice but to lawyer up and utilize the legal system to preserve your own sanctity.

You should continue to blame everyone else for your problems.

Given you met him in rehab, you probably haven't held much of a job down in your life and haven't brought much financially to the table.

So your best course of action is to divorce him and get at least half of everything he owns.

I wouldn't normally condone this, but this is (a) probably a joke and if its not (b) men who pick out needy women with red flags like this probably deserve it.

You are not communicating your feelings well with your husband or you are not accepting his answer and trusting that he's not going to leave you for this girl. You need to reality check yourself. Is he really going after this girl right in front of your face or are you being paranoid? Or is this bringing up insecurities that he may be getting bored with the relationship? You have to express all these feelings to him and let him know what you are thinking. You will ruin the relationship and your own life if you keep drinking. You already know and understand this. You maybe need to find new meetings where you feel you can be honest. Going to meetings and lying about your sobriety date is mental masturbation. If you can't be honest, don't go waste your time.

Would J. King troll on here as a 40 plus alcoholic woman in a failing marriage? Would J. King really lower himself to such depths?

40+ woman & recovering addict wrote:

What should I do?

Dump the husband, the running club, the therapists and AA.

Run more.

Womens' Perspective wrote:

So your best course of action is to divorce him and get at least half of everything he owns.

I wouldn't normally condone this, but this is (a) probably a joke and if its not (b) men who pick out needy women with red flags like this probably deserve it.

Female entitlement in full display.

I'm sorry lady, but it sounds like you have more issues that need looking into before you should start worrying about what members of your local running club your husband is talking to.