My friend is 28 years old and still acts like a teenager... Doesn't seem to be maturing at all...

Say what you said here to her.

Be honest with her, and also keep your distance.

First of all, never deal with any chick older than 19.

King Joe wrote:

My friend is 28 years old and still acts like a teenager... Doesn't seem to be maturing at all.

So?

Your friend sounds crazy...can I have her number?

Sounds like a lot of 28 year old females ( and males) these days. As long as they are not hurting anyone, let them live their life how they want to. They will probably come to their own realization that they are not getting any younger and clean up their act themselves.

Hey cut all ties? Just dont get involved too much so that it hurts you. Some distance is enough. As you get older most people become too boring. So its good to have a clown friend with whom you counter your more boring self. And let her live her life. Not everyone has to be the same way

A lot of people get drunk in their 30s and 40s. A lot of people older than her do cocaine and other drugs and are working very serious jobs.

Who cares she has an entry level job. Not everyone wants to climb up the corporate ladder, at least she has a job.....If anything, I applaud her maturity for realizing how pointless and unfulfilling most corporate jobs/careers are. She's focusing on having a good time and still able to maintain a job (albeit without career growth, which who cares about to be honest).

Also who cares that she hangs out with people in early 20s.....its not like shes 45.....still less than 10 years apart....

you seem judgmental op. she seems to be enjoying her life and as long as she's not cruel to others, not sure why you can't be her friend over her still holding down an entry level job.......in my opinion, you are immature one.

you also say "shes been an incredible friend to me". enjoy that and keep it for whats its worth. trust me, you will come across many stable and mature career driven and focused people that will eventually be horrible friends to you and/or betray you. She's a great friend (you said it yourself). Enjoy it and stop the judgement.

This girl likely either will a) never mature or b) will get pregnant and mature somewhat because she is forced to. Either situation doesn't sound like you'll be happy to be around. She won't wake up one day and decide she wants to save for a house or to take classes for a career.

You shouldn't feel responsible for her and a relationship with her will likely not be satisfying. I think its time to move on and work toward spending your limited time with someone you could see yourself being with, without having to change.

Yeah, making $12/hr, living in squalor, having no retirement, and breaking your ankle while doing stupid crap while drunk and racking up medical bills you can't pay is really admirable and conducive to long term well-being. Brilliant assessment.

She is a friend. Good that you are keeping it that way. There is no reason to "cut her out" of your life. She just will likely become less of a friend than she had been. It's not your job to straighten her up. She's an adult woman. She can do and will do as she pleases. If she ever comes to you complaining that her life is a mess, THEN discuss ways for her to turn things around, but SHE drives that discussion, not you.

It's possible she's an alcoholic. It's possible she's just not too bright and can't move up. It's possible she's both.

Okay, this checks a lot of cringe boxes. You were friends with benefits with a party girl and afterwards you remained friends for some reason? I'd be curious to know what type of friendship you have with her. Is she someone you can call at all hours of the night with a problem and know that she'll have your back? If not, this is an easy choice to cut her out of your life.

The girls with the father issues almost always manifest deep rooted psychological issues as a result that most will carry with them for the rest of their lives. That is why their relationships with males are so problematic. You mention being mature for your age and having tried to play as a role model... just, ick, that's not your job here and why these women are such an issue for men to date. She was likely attracted to you for this reason which is creepy enough as it is, but you going with it is another matter.

I'd suggest losing her phone number and moving on with your life. In this life, we can only save ourselves. If she wants to change and seek what would likely need to be counseling, then that decision falls squarely on her.

Good luck.

I tend to agree that you’re coming off as immature. Like, what kind of a stupid thread is this?

I don't really know what to do about her.

-Nothing

What should I do?

-Nothing

Is there anything that can be done with these types?

-.In your case, let them be

What even are you supposed to do with someone like this?

-Let them live their lives, and don’t associate with them if you don’t want to. Duh.

The only thing that could change those answers is if you’re actually in love with her and want to marry her someday.

"Hangs out with people in their early 20s"

Sounds like she's cooler than you dude. Do you hang out with 40 year old accountants from work who drink one light beer and then go to bed at 9 pm? Not to mention the fact that the age gap between your self at 33 years old and your friend (friend?) at 28 years old is about as big as the age gap between your friend and the early 20s people that you for some reason don't like her hanging out with. All in all a very strange post on your part.

Why the hate on someone making minimum wage? So anyone working a min wage job is somehow disqualified from being a friend?

You sound very entitled.

everyoneisdoping wrote:

King Joe wrote:

Yeah, making $12/hr, living in squalor, having no retirement, and breaking your ankle while doing stupid crap while drunk and racking up medical bills you can't pay is really admirable and conducive to long term well-being. Brilliant assessment.

Why the hate on someone making minimum wage? So anyone working a min wage job is somehow disqualified from being a friend?

You sound very entitled.

Good assessment. How does the amount of money she makes and her retirement affect the OP, exactly?

King Joe, you sound like you want to settle down with her.

I don't see a problem here. She's an adult even if you don't think she's living like one so she gets to live like she wants. If it bothers you too much yes, cut ties. If you don't want to cut ties you just live with things as they are.