Thoughts on Gabby Petito
--I feel horrible for what happened to her. Horrible for her family.
--Every few years our country becomes fixated on a white blonde girl who goes missing and goes out of our way to help in finding her--which in this case, we did. This has not ever happened for a person of color. Never. It is so baldly racist I can't stand it. That's why I can't get behind the "America's daughter" stuff. If Gabby is America's daughter, then so is Lauren Cho (google PLEASE).
--I wonder if we are ever going to stop treating women like THEY are the crazy ones. Men get violent, angry, enraged and murderous. But somehow a woman is always overreacting when they fear for safety. anger is an emotion. rage is an (unhealthy) emotion. Stalking and harassing are crimes. Murder...is a crime. Punching walls is violence. Grabbing someone or doing anything physical in anger is violence. Stop calling women emotional all the damn time and wake up and control your own emotions.
--Stop asking women why they didn't just "leave". For the billionth time, leaving is hard on its own and women are conditioned to make themselves feel as small and as insignificant as possible which is why they are constantly apologizing for feeling anything. So they might be in a violent and abusive relationship and not really even process it. and it is not on the woman to leave an abusive situation. It's on the man to idk...not...abuse.
and don't hit me with the "but women can be abusive tooooooooo" yes, I know. obviously. But Brian Laundrie wasn't found murdered in a mountain. Gabby was. That's what we're talking about now.
--Influencer culture has got to stop. I am so glad this stuff wasn't around when I was younger. Honestly, I was grossed out by her instagram and the attempts of every influencer to build a following off of a fake life they don't actually have. YoGa! VegGieS! MoUntAiN BaBe! She's from Long Island, comes from decent money and worked at a yogurt stand. She was in a terrible relationship that she sold as a picture perfect one of Fun! Adventures! In reality their travels was stressful. Why do people follow these vloggers? What do they gain out of looking at their pictures? It is only designed to make people feel bad in my opinion. And none of it is real. On a side note, many of these influencers drift into dieting and eating, and they are not remotely qualified to be telling anyone about what to eat and how.