Have you ever been angry or emotionally hurt at any point of your life? Angry or emotional people often will say something that isn't the most rational thing.
Lots of people do things they shouldn't. They smoke. The use drugs legally and illegally to get high. They drink too much. They lie. They cheat on their spouse. They act irrationally when they get emotional. I don't do any of those things. You can accuse me of being straight-laced if you want, but I don't fall into the flawed activities mentioned above.
We are in charge of the things we do. Too many people rationalize their bad behavior by thinking and SAYING that everyone does it. Well, no, not everyone engages in bad behavior.
Why Mr. Flagpole, I do believe that you are engaging in the dark arts of trolling! (Of course at this point as all trollers are mandated to do, you will deny trolling). " My wife and I never do or say anything irrational" (I paraphrased). That is a very good troll so I will play along.
First no one is accusing you of illegal drug because, drinking too much or cheating on your spouse so the first part of your response is irrelevant. Of course one can do something not rational without doing something as severe as cheating on one's wife.
How rational is it to make a number of posts to people you don't know to try and convince them that you and you wife never do anything that's not rational?
Question: At what age did you and your wife stop doing anything that was not rational? Were you born that way or did you stop at the age of 5? Or maybe 18?
( Also when you quoted me you cut off my comment about whether you and your wife are Vulcan and that was important, because if you are, your argument about always being rational makes sense!)
One of the features of irrationality is to not know that is what one is showing.
That is true, but that does not apply to me.
If it is true then it must also apply to you but you won't know when you are being irrational. So of course you will say you have never been irrational - when you have, but didn't know it.
I've been married over 20 years. Women like a strong man, just tell them what they need and don't listen to any complaints... OK I've been married over 20 years, but the real answer is listen. They usually don't even want a solution, they just want you to listen.
You are too stupid to understand what an analogy is. Not my fault.
I guess when you here an athlete say their legs are burning you think they are on fire.
Seriously man, you are the loathsome here. Always trying to find fault in others instead of engaging in an honest discussion.
The other day you said you don't have a wife. It's clear why.
But clearly if you did you would find reason to treat your wife like an aggressive dog. As you say.
I have been happily married for decades. I treat my wife like the soulmate she is to me. Not that you would ever know how it feels to be totally in love and loved. I don't have much time for you as we are going out to dinner this evening. Enjoy wasting the few years you have left, getting angry at people on a message board, for hours, every single day.
How do you deal with an aggressive dog during your run? Does it imply that you own the dog? You are too quick to judge others. You are always looking to attack them. Be better.
J*sus Chr*st, you compare a female spouse with an aggressive dog. This place is truly loathsome - and you've just shown why.
The analogy was to show how the term "deal with" does not imply ownership. It wasn't to compare a woman to a dog... If that wasn't immediately apparent, I would encourage you to work hard on how you think and interpret things. Taking things the way you did suggests a strong confrontational and emotionally reactive disposition. People like that are generally incredibly difficult to have happy relationships (of any kind) with.
If she is an active or passive bully consider moving on. It used to be that women sucked it up for the family and put their family ahead of themselves. It is a given that men do this also but in different ways. Many women now put themselves ahead and don't even know it believing what is good for themself is good for the family. I married a bully and one of my sons did also. Not miserable but wish I had this advice back in the day.
Lots of people do things they shouldn't. They smoke. The use drugs legally and illegally to get high. They drink too much. They lie. They cheat on their spouse. They act irrationally when they get emotional. I don't do any of those things. You can accuse me of being straight-laced if you want, but I don't fall into the flawed activities mentioned above.
We are in charge of the things we do. Too many people rationalize their bad behavior by thinking and SAYING that everyone does it. Well, no, not everyone engages in bad behavior.
How rational is it to make a number of posts to people you don't know to try and convince them that you and you wife never do anything that's not rational?
If spewing the truth is wrong, then I don't wanna be right!
But clearly if you did you would find reason to treat your wife like an aggressive dog. As you say.
I have been happily married for decades. I treat my wife like the soulmate she is to me. Not that you would ever know how it feels to be totally in love and loved. I don't have much time for you as we are going out to dinner this evening. Enjoy wasting the few years you have left, getting angry at people on a message board, for hours, every single day.
It strikes me you're the angry one. And while you're out, make sure your wife doesn't behave like an "aggressive dog". I'm sure you'll respond like the master you believe yourself to be.
J*sus Chr*st, you compare a female spouse with an aggressive dog. This place is truly loathsome - and you've just shown why.
The analogy was to show how the term "deal with" does not imply ownership. It wasn't to compare a woman to a dog... If that wasn't immediately apparent, I would encourage you to work hard on how you think and interpret things. Taking things the way you did suggests a strong confrontational and emotionally reactive disposition. People like that are generally incredibly difficult to have happy relationships (of any kind) with.
The analogy revealed the thinking of the person using it. I'm not surprised the Misogynists Inc on Letsrun don't see that.
Your ‘good memory’ is filtered by your experience of the situation, which is determined by your life’s experiences. Her memory and experience will always be different to yours to a degree.
Accept that you will see and recall same thing differently, which will determine your response. It doesn’t necessarily mean either of you are wrong. Be curious about where you differ and find common ground.
My wife is from a class that is incredibly polished well-paced and soft-spoken about their irrationality. So, of course, that means I have to be the loud one or the one who says f off now and then
Hire an accountant each tax season. Keep meticulous records: finances and communications. Stay 100% drug and alcohol free. Have three best friends outside the marriage who are loyal to the real you, not relationship you. Attend a place of worship regularly, whether that be a gym, a track, a church, or any place where you meditatively center your mind, body, and spirit.
In other words, maximize your health and don't let your marriage become a codependent, closed system where your shared energy gets trapped and becomes toxic. Do this and what your partner says and/or does won't ever sink your ship.