rojo wrote:
whatlol wrote:
What weirdo comes to a running forum for this kind of situation. These forums continue to be a joke.
I disagree with your take. I think the MB has been GREAT in this thread.
Why would someone come here for advice? Let me tell you why.
1) It's free
2) It's unbaised.
Let me turn this on you. Why wouldn't you go on here?
I've never understood why people go to shrinks.
1) They all charge like $200 an hour and
2) They all seem to have plenty of conflict in their own lives. If they are so smart, why are their own lives so screwed up?
3) They have a huge financial incentive to not solve your problems so you keep using them.
Here, people will say flat out after 15 seconds, "End it." A therapist probably would never say something that direct and if they did they'd only do it after 15 sessions (and 3k), not 15 seconds. They'd want to talk about your relationship with your your parents first, then your siblings, etc.
Perhaps you’ve been lucky enough to never need therapy, or perhaps you’ve never had a good therapist. Advice is very, very different from treatment. I think we all can agree that loads of people can give advice, case in point here, but the OP will likely do whatever he came here seeking validation for, which is to continue the relationship. However, for him to change his perspective requires him to want to change himself. Therapists are a mirror; their role isn’t to provide advice, their role is to help one see oneself more clearly and support the change from within.
Having gone through an incredible transformation in my late 30s, and similarly ivy-league educated, I think your view of therapy is either extremely privileged or cynical and you may wish to consider it a bit more deeply than you have to date. If nothing else, I’d suggest you at least respect the medium as it can, and does, work. Thanks.