This has become an interesting thread.
First, a very interesting and related argument is taking place over this post by a professor at Chicago:
http://delong.typepad.com/sdj/2010/09/todd-henderson-we-are-the-super-rich.html
Delong responded here:
http://delong.typepad.com/sdj/2010/09/in-which-mr-deling-responds-to-someone-who-might-be-professor-todd-henderson.html
The Chicago professor is making a lot of money, but his problems can be summarized like so:
"By any standard, they are really rich.
But they don't feel rich. They have a cash flow problem. When the bills are paid at the end of the month, the money is gone--and they feel that they have to scrimp."
I thought this was interesting and related to this discussion.
Back to the original point of the thread, I do know some very wealthy people. Some of my extended family is fantastically wealthy, but their middle-aged kids (with one exception) are basically losers. I'm not sure what the story is, but I guess they aren't too bright and never needed to be ambitious like their parents. They aren't able to help run the family business. The parents are totally cool, I really like talking to them and they love seeing us.
My brother and I once went through some calculations and guessed that our parents make close to $500k/yr (total), but they won't tell us how much. I'm a graduate student and I'm very happy to be living on my $20k/yr stipend while studying interesting things, my brother is in finance. My mother is very ambitious and runs a company that she founded, but she makes less money than our father because he works for a Fortune 500 company. Our father probably has one of the best analytical minds in the country (seriously), but that talent is wasted to some extent because he can be a bit lazy. He's happy to do his job well, work normal hours, and go to the symphony, play games and sports, travel, etc. More than anything, when we were growing up our parents stressed the value of education -- always made us do our homework, read to us when we were little, talked to us about things we were interested in, pushed us to try harder at the things we were bad at, challenged us and made sure we were well-rounded (pushed us to do sports, learn music, etc). They didn't spoil us -- we had fewer toys and games than almost all of our friends, and my allowance never topped $5/wk, even in high school, but if we needed money for something we could ask and usually get it. They were (and are) great parents. There's only so much you can do to control a personality, but somehow my brother and I are both extremely bright and motivated. Considering that our grandparents were immigrants, I'm sure they'd be very proud.
I had a couple of comments from previous posts:
1. A previous poster said that intelligence correlates with income. I would agree. But most of the smartest people I know (on the level of the top 0.1% of the population) do not aspire to make as much money as they can. I think most are confident enough to know that they can always make a living doing what they're interested in if they're good at what they want to do. The people I know who make the most money are not quite as bright but have a bigger chip on their shoulder. Even among university professors, there are definite differences in personality types. Things like drive, determination, and motivation are often more important than competence. Some people are really interested in their jobs and are happy to do them very well. Other people want to take over the world.
2. A previous poster wrote:
"Yes, I may make a good amount of money... more then 98% of Americans... but I consider the majority of that money as non-negotiable savings. In other words, I put a large chunk of money in the bank, and it STAYS there. NO MATTER WHAT. So I am living like someone making a fraction of what I make because I chose to SAVE. If I get taxed, you aren't eating into my disposable income, because in my mind, I don't have any. I have savings that don't get touched, and you're taxing my savings. So I don't live "rich" even though Obama would call me such. I really might as well not have 1/2 of my income on a given year, because its gone and stocked away. I'll grab it when I'm 45 or 50. The way I was raised, that is being responsible, and by repealing the Bush tax cuts, you're punishing me for my responsibility."
This is so ridiculous that I barely know how to respond, but it relates to the link I posted earlier. No matter how much money you make, you could always spend or invest the excess fraction and lack disposable income. You think the problem is with the government, but I think the problem is with you. If you don't want to pay taxes, you can move to Somalia. If you don't think it's fair that you have to pay more taxes than someone poorer than you, my first piece of advice is that you should stop worrying so much about other people. But more importantly, I think you're forgetting what it really means to be poor. I'll stop there.