stuck with match.com wrote:
I'm not sure what to say. It appears that there is an over whelming majority to break up with her or postpone the wedding. I still disagree with that as I feel it is drastic. However I want to see what happens within the next few days. How things go, I wouldn't make any drastic moves within the next few days. Just wait things out and see how things go. If she continues seeing dinner with this guy then yes end it, but if not and she seems sincere about not doing it again, then marry her.
The problem is that marriage is such a big deal, and people find reasons all the time to end one. If this woman were to continue seeing this guy, then SHE is basically ending the wedding. Personally I wouldn't let it get that far. She made a bad decision and THEN got mad and was secretive. Nope. Not a woman I would marry. I really hope this guy dumps her. His marriage will not be a happy one.
OP, go find a woman who enjoys being with you...a woman who doesn't need her ego or anything else stroked by another man. I can't stress this enough for you...this fiancee of yours is a bad apple. She's bad news. I would have ended it yesterday.