Weird thing - I was and still am a runner but once I took swimming to cross train I gained some muscle and had better posture then women started coming up to me at parties to talk. Dating got a a lot easier.
I’ve always been fit but I’ve weighed anywhere from 150 to 210. Most always pretty lean at any weight.
I don’t feel like being muscular or looking like a anorexic runner has ever made a difference with women for me.
it’s all about what I’m putting out there at the time. If life is going good and I’m in a good head space women like me. If I’m in a rough patch in life they can sense my lack of confidence from the other side of the room. haha
You know how you’ll go on a big dry spell and think you’ll never touch a woman again? Then you finally get you some and next thing you know you’re on a roll. It’s that confidence.
I already have children. Married, +20 years. Here's a tip for success with the ladies, what they say, what they think, and how they behave are three entirely different things, that even they can't reconcile.
Sounds like someone is projecting his experience with his wife onto all women.
Classic LRC!
This is common knowledge amongst everyone who's spent time with women. I've never heard anyone (even women) say that women are purely rational beings who always say what they are thinking.
I’ve always been fit but I’ve weighed anywhere from 150 to 210. Most always pretty lean at any weight.
I don’t feel like being muscular or looking like a anorexic runner has ever made a difference with women for me.
it’s all about what I’m putting out there at the time. If life is going good and I’m in a good head space women like me. If I’m in a rough patch in life they can sense my lack of confidence from the other side of the room. haha
You know how you’ll go on a big dry spell and think you’ll never touch a woman again? Then you finally get you some and next thing you know you’re on a roll. It’s that confidence.
This is facts. It's all about confidence, showing interest, willingness to take chances with women.
The problem is, the bar has never been higher for guys, even for average or below average women. Women are getting bombarded with messages from dudes on social media and dating apps - they've never had so many options, yet they all claim that there are no good men out there. That's obviously not true, it's just that women get so many messages and they're only going to choose the top tier of the options they have. Let's say the roles were reversed and guys were the ones whose phones are being blown up with women trying to bang them, if 90% of those messages are from average women and 10% were from Playboy models, the guys probably wouldn't be paying much attention to the bottom 90% if you know you could score with the models.
This happened today and I’m going to try to keep it short. mountain biking near the W magnolia trailhead. there’s a sweet girl jogging the trail with her dog. The trails up there are spider webby and my buddy I and keep overlapping & passing her. Anyway we stop for a bit to look at the trail (easy to get lost there) and see her stopped, and start rolling by her and she’s like ‘there’s a moose up there.’ I was like ‘actually there’s a moose AND a calf, you and your dog should probably get out of here.’ she’s like ‘ok, but can I stay with you guys until we get a bit of distance’. Anyway we head away from the moose, and then on que, that damn thing comes flying down the trail. She’s about 50m ahead of us , my friend and I are like ‘get into the trees, pick up your dog.’
The moose (+calf)stops about 20m from her. like a total tool, I pick up a giant stick and start walking towards the girl to be between the girl and moose. because I’m an idiot and plan to fight a moose with a stick to protect some random chick I don’t know. I tell her to pick up her dog and slowly start walking back towards my friend and I. eventually she gets to ‘safely’ of the mtbers with sticks. she’s really chill about it, says ‘my dog is used to horses.’ my buddy and I agree to hang back so she can get up the trail (because we’re ‘armed’ with you know - bikes and sticks).
anyway we eventually pass her right before a steep section of trail (roots&rocks for the locals) - I drop my friend and after and after about 15 min of grinding up this stupid damn climb I wait for my buddy - she catches up and we have a quick chat. she askes about the route and I say ‘I don’t really ride often up here and don’t know, running is more my thing but I can’t get my friends to go with me.’ I’m going to leave it there and to your imagination but I swear this actually happened today. point is, behave like a man, be assertive but not weird and be confident - if you get smacked down, so be it..
I’m a gay man. I have a lot of female friends; they confide in a lot of their dating and sex lives.
Not once have I ever heard them say a man’s appearance was the problem.
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Complaints about appearance never even came up.
In order to date and have sex with women, you need to look good enough to even be considered for such in the first place. You're looking at it from the wrong end, after the selection progress, instead of befoe. I can't imagine you haven't heard women laughing about, or being insulted by, being approached by someone below their physical standards for men.
I’m a gay man. I have a lot of female friends; they confide in a lot of their dating and sex lives.
Not once have I ever heard them say a man’s appearance was the problem.
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Complaints about appearance never even came up.
In order to date and have sex with women, you need to look good enough to even be considered for such in the first place. You're looking at it from the wrong end, after the selection progress, instead of befoe. I can't imagine you haven't heard women laughing about, or being insulted by, being approached by someone below their physical standards for men.
Sex appeal is so different for a man…. Even if a man is a five out of 10 in looks (and male sex appeal tends to have a wider variation than female i.e. some women like muscular men and some prefer more slender etc vs women features of attractiveness much more universal ), if he has confidence and/or is extremely successful at something it kind of makes up for everything lacking in the looks department, except maybe not on certain online hookup type of dating sites where everything is pretty superficial
actually the best way to succeed on hookup online dating eg Tinder is to have really really good photos where you look good and fun to be around. It has gotten a lot more difficult to succeed on Tinder nowadays because of so many scammers and accounts just promoting instagram influencer followings Etc
Sex appeal is so different for a man…. if he has confidence and/or is extremely successful at something it kind of makes up for everything lacking in the looks department,
Those are called gold diggers, men with money can pull them because of the dual mating strat of females. They get money from Beta male, they get the DNA from Chad who they find genetically more fit, they can then try and pass the child of Chad as being that of Beta, and/or they divorce Beta male and then find their Chad. Women always have the option of the dual mating strat, and they feel it on an instinctive level, even if individuals might be able to fight it off.
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Sex appeal is so different for a man…. if he has confidence and/or is extremely successful at something it kind of makes up for everything lacking in the looks department,
Those are called gold diggers, men with money can pull them because of the dual mating strat of females. They get money from Beta male, they get the DNA from Chad who they find genetically more fit, they can then try and pass the child of Chad as being that of Beta, and/or they divorce Beta male and then find their Chad. Women always have the option of the dual mating strat, and they feel it on an instinctive level, even if individuals might be able to fight it off.
I’m not talking super high income from being super successful -although that helps a lot - but it’s more of a confidence and swagger from being very interested and passionate about what it is you’re doing in this world. As long as the income from it is enough to provide good shelter, healthcare costs, and support a large family (which actually is not easy these days) a lot of women would (probably) find a man a good match if he can provide those things or looks like he soon can (all of that makes a guy with looks that are a five turn into an eight or a nine to a woman).
That being said what drives me crazy is when I meet women online and within a quick conversation/first date they are mainly interested in what my job title is because it seems like they are immediately trying to size me up before even getting to know me or have any fun
The article may be truthful about there being more men trying to date and more options for woman, but I found the opposite in practice. I got divorced after healthy 20+ year marriage in 2018, dated 3-4 months, and then have been committed to a great girl for almost 4 years.
If you remove guys that don't take care of themselves (not runners), broke/cheap, soy boys, no humor, alcoholics, narcissistic, and not honest then you only end up with a few guys that all the women are after and it is too EASY.
30-40's women go through a "last pretty" phase and are hungry for ****. Up to that point in life they've had their highest sexual market value and all of a sudden they start seeing signs the ride is over. As doubt starts seeping in with chinks in her armor, then there is an aggressive drive to get attention, lots of attention! This is when many marriages break down and then the women go on rebound.
The vast majority of 40-50 year old men out there haven't taken care of themselves, are average or below average successful, have non-masculine qualities (soy boys), aren't fun to hang with, drink too much, don't have an acceptance of who they are, and many ended up single for lying or disrespecting their prior relationship.
It is like a Division I coach, with so many fish in the sea, why recruit trash. The best recruits will all have multiple offers. :D
That being said what drives me crazy is when I meet women online and within a quick conversation/first date they are mainly interested in what my job title is because it seems like they are immediately trying to size me up before even getting to know me or have any fun
If women aren't approaching you, then you already failed the looks test with them to be Chad. If they're sizing you up for whether your status/wealth/income/personality can add enough value to make you worth considering for Beta supporter role.