Only those that suffer from this compulsion can understand it. Just like most people can't understand how someone could stand to drink a fifth of Jack Daniels every day, but an alcoholic will call that "a good start".
I'm older and I have always suffered with this. When the internet came along my god, it went into super overdrive- hyperspace.
Dumb Things I've Done:
-purchased magazines and videos- this was pre-internet
-gone to numerous adult book stores, back in the day when you had to rent dvds the worst part was having to go back again to return them. Often these places are in seedy parts of town, I was always worried I would get robbed or have a wreck either going to get a vid or return them. No way to explain why I was in that area or at that store. Could be very embarrassing.
-pic collector of the highest order. I've had entire HDs dedicated to my pic collection. I cant just look at some hot pix, I always end up saving "the good ones"
-stayed up very late 2-3 am to specifically download pics and vid.
-visited chat rooms dedicated to pics and vids.
-catfished- (just another way to collect pix) this one makes me feel the worst and the lowest. it's so creepy, stupid and risky.
The fact that you'd be embarrassed about others knowing any of this has more to do with our sh-tty society than it does you. You are biologically compelled to be horny and to try to get off as much as possible. Simple as that. Modern technology facilitates pursuit of what is a biological imperative. If anyone around you has a problem with your lifestyle, it's their problem, not yours.
If I was just watching dirty movies or looking at pictures of naked women I would agree.
Pretending to be someone in a chat room, is weird and embarassing.
The fact that you'd be embarrassed about others knowing any of this has more to do with our sh-tty society than it does you. You are biologically compelled to be horny and to try to get off as much as possible. Simple as that. Modern technology facilitates pursuit of what is a biological imperative. If anyone around you has a problem with your lifestyle, it's their problem, not yours.
If I was just watching dirty movies or looking at pictures of naked women I would agree.
Pretending to be someone in a chat room, is weird and embarassing.
Unless you are intending to hurt someone somehow by targeting them in a chat room, what's the problem? Has it occurred to you that many, maybe most, of the people in those chat rooms are incognito in some manner?
Live your life man. Even if you are hornier and like to get off more than your peers, so what? We're all different and nobody gets to pave your path except you.
I do not know what will work for you. For me, I reached a point where I was simply disgusted with myself. I decided to make every effort to avoid dirty youtube videos, and sometimes I have to fast forward through sex scenes in movies, even PG-13 stuff. Sounds excessive but that is what I have to do.
I went off all porn, cold Turkey. There is no amount that is healthy.
I’ve only been porn free about six weeks, but I’ll tell you that the brain begins to heal itself every quickly. I felt better within days. I don’t pretend that I’m perfect now. But a lot better off.
God bless you, praying that you will be free of it.
Fell off the wagon a couple of weeks ago. Not giving up though! Trying to stay off. Pray for me please.
I do not know what will work for you. For me, I reached a point where I was simply disgusted with myself. I decided to make every effort to avoid dirty youtube videos, and sometimes I have to fast forward through sex scenes in movies, even PG-13 stuff. Sounds excessive but that is what I have to do.
I went off all porn, cold Turkey. There is no amount that is healthy.
I’ve only been porn free about six weeks, but I’ll tell you that the brain begins to heal itself every quickly. I felt better within days. I don’t pretend that I’m perfect now. But a lot better off.
God bless you, praying that you will be free of it.
Fell off the wagon a couple of weeks ago. Not giving up though! Trying to stay off. Pray for me please.
If you're abstaining from porn - are you getting the real thing now?
Fell off the wagon a couple of weeks ago. Not giving up though! Trying to stay off. Pray for me please.
If you're abstaining from porn - are you getting the real thing now?
Yes, I am married and have sex regularly, though not as often as I would like. While that doesn’t help, I cannot in any way blame this on my wife. I make my own choices, and I have to make better ones.
I do not know what will work for you. For me, I reached a point where I was simply disgusted with myself. I decided to make every effort to avoid dirty youtube videos, and sometimes I have to fast forward through sex scenes in movies, even PG-13 stuff. Sounds excessive but that is what I have to do.
I went off all porn, cold Turkey. There is no amount that is healthy.
I’ve only been porn free about six weeks, but I’ll tell you that the brain begins to heal itself every quickly. I felt better within days. I don’t pretend that I’m perfect now. But a lot better off.
God bless you, praying that you will be free of it.
Fell off the wagon a couple of weeks ago. Not giving up though! Trying to stay off. Pray for me please.
Honestly I think your problem is that you are being too extreme. Cut out the porn, but don't cut out the PG-13 stuff.
Hello, I propose you some solutions to overcome this problem: 1. You install a porn blocker app on all your devices, you choose a random code and then you "lose" that code. 2. Alternative: If you are caught up in need, you go to dating sites, this will replace. 3. If, however, you give in to your addiction, you self-unite the next day by making a day of youth: you drink absolutely nothing, you do not eat and you do not smoke between sunrise and sunset.
I think it's key to work towards a milestone with an exciting reward. In this case you abstain for a year, but then go full Hunter Biden for a weekend. Rent a cheap hotel, put the porn on loop, start smoking meth and phoning escorts.
Yeah I developed a one night stand addiction to replace it but being such a degenerate pig is probably not as intriguing as it may or may not appear to be.
i was a slave to porn from about 12 until 25 years old. tried to quit multiple times throughout the years but always came back to it. finally read about the easypeasymethod and quit for good. haven’t looked back and quitting this time has been one of the easiest and rewarding decisions of my life. helped me get back into running after a 6 year hiatus, reenergized my focus towards my career, and has done wonders for my relationship.
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You’re right for sure. When the only way to access pornography was to go to run down parts of town and enter a theater populated by perverts wearing trench coats and doing unspeakable things in their seats, it made it unthinkable for a lot of men. Similar situations made it more difficult to buy nudie magazines. For a lot of folks it involved too much risk of being labeled a degenerate by the community. Sure it happened anyway, but it was a lot less. Today, of course, pornography is in our face and part of our every day. Makes life more difficult to be sure. A constant battle for many of us.
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