My boyfriend cheated...should I forgive him? Looking for an update from "hearbroken" from 17 yrs ago.

It woul be great to hear from the OP "heartbroken". Did she forgive him? Did they break up? Is she now married, divorced, singlet, etc?

What does this thread have to do with running? call Dr Phil or Jerry Springer

I feel your pain and am sorry you have to deal with this. I can not imagine going through it all this with 2 kids. I clearly was not around mentally for weeks after my experience. It took me almost 8 months to move on but am still not dating. The hardest part is knowing the life you had is gone and the things we were working towards are no longer goals.

As a guy who was cheated on by his lady of 7 years. I was unaware of any issues we had at the time. I had no complaints and when I checked in with her she would say nothing is wrong. It started with a kiss from a co worker. Then the 2 weeks before her next work trip they talked every day and they had planed to move out and get married. She first admitted to a kiss, before learning it was way more. Some where between that kiss and the trip she told me she did not love me and that is when I should have kicked her out. I was dumb and did everything I could to save our relationship. I have lost all trust. It is also hard to move on and figure out what to do next.

Best of luck, follow the first thing your gut tells you I certainly wished I did.

Then some of the other 5 pages of people reading and responding to this thread can learn from this.

Instead of saying something useless, you should move on.

Ha! Another lesson learned.

They used to have the death penalty for infidelity. Im willing to bet if that was restored, cheating would significantly decrease. I guess people can't keep or respect their word anymore. The vows at weddings are comical and pointless.

Guess what? He kissed other girls before you, probably even enjoyed sex with them, so just think about that for a while.

Nice trolling. 17 yr old girls don't post here....

Dear Heartbroken,

Do not make any romantic decision--or any major life decision-- without first consulting the panel of experts on letsrun.

This is awesome. Just think of all that could have happened in the last 17 years with this couple. Rojo is right though, maybe one have moved beyond binary, and is not "singlet."

Who starts up threads from over 17 years ago? Too much time on your hands

It was a joke in response to you saying 'move on' to someone who posted 17 years back... chill out. Not every response has to be deep or intellectual. Instead of saying something nasty you should probably move on. Don't be so weird.

Now: Tell him how you feel and try to give him a break.

Then: If you can't get over it after a couple weeks, end the relationship.

People handle infidelity differently. No judgement. You'll have to find out how it is.

One other tip: Keep communicating with him.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha. That’s good one.

How what you “know” this? Because she told you?? The same trustworthy woman who spent a night with another guy???

They probably had intercourse, I suspect two or three times.

I can't believe Im going to be the only one to say this.

0% chance it was just a kiss. 0%.

He went away for a trip and only kissed this girl.....and felt guilty enough to confess.....right.....

Here's what really happened. While on this trip he banged her several times and felt guilty enough that he wanted some atonement for his sin against you, but knew that confessing to the sex would be a dealbreaker so he downplayed it in hope he could get some cathartic release from the confession but also still keep the relationship alive.