Thats life sadly. The 23 years being on God's green earth, I've never experienced a genuine relationship with my Dad (55). He never talks to me or my siblings or my mom. He never asks me any questions, our conversations are 30 seconds max, usually involving him belitting me as a joke, or joking about me being weak, or poor, or wrong about something, or not smart enough (i'm 6'4 230lbs, im a boxer, weight lifter, I have my own business). He's very insecure and I'm not sure why? He has it all, he's very successful. I'm a male, so I never think about this, but recently my Mom's told me she's divorcing him. Theres over 1000 hours of explaining all the horrible, awful, evil things my Dad has done to my mother, my 5 siblings, myself, and our dogs. He's narcissitc, self centered, arogant, ignorant, prideful, hostile, and has a huge problem with cognitve dissonance. You can't talk to him, you can't ask him to change, you can't have a conversation with him about being nicer, or not verbally abusing his kids, his wife. Nothing. Its sad too, this man will be dead in 30 years (all of my grandparents lived until their late 80-90s) and all I have to remember him by NOW anyways, is how self centered he is. He has no interest in my life, or my siblings, practically makes fun and belittles or curses at my mom every chance he can get. I guess he finally had enough when my mother just stopped yelling back, I guess my Dad liked the attention? He'll die alone, miserable, and lonely. I see it clearly even before the divorce will happen. He'll be angry for a year, ballistic even. But after he'll be lonely, depressed, miserable. I mean all of this is his fault, he caused it, he did it to himself. Usually it takes 2 to fight, but not my Mom, never fought with him, never instigated the fights, usually never even yelled back out of respect. His dad was pathetic, self centered, and an azzhole just like he is. Never gave a damn about anyone but himself, never cared, never thought to ask his kids, or wife how they were doing, or if they needed something. damn, the second I got a girlfriend at 22, he belittled me saying we would never last, and she was ugly and disgusting (she's quite beautiful actually from an objective standpoint, not sure how I pulled her). Once I wanted to live with her after 3 months and told him on accident, he flipped out, harassed me for 6 months threatening to cut me off, take my car, stop paying my college, or beat my mom, beat my siblings, all this crap. All because I was living with my gf instead of at home. Control, some people are just so insecure, all they can grasp to keep the lights on in their soul is control. Control is all they need. Anyway thats life, I;m not crying about it, but its just fascinating how self destructive and stupid some people turn out to be. Not sure if it's because they became parents or they were always like that. One second he's buying my mom all these presents, the next he's grabbing my 13 year old sister by the throat and screaming at her, why? Because she didn't explain what was happening in the movie every 45 seconds. Again some people are just destined for hell :/