Any men ever take their Wife's last name?

LOL, woah. I started this troll thread just to see if anyone would bite, and haven't logged back onto letsrun since. I didn't expect more than 5-10 responses. good job, kids.

Charles Nelson Reilly wrote:

Josh Hamilton's Addiction wrote:

If I were to ever get married, it'd ideally be to a woman who wants to keep her own name, rather than taking mine. I don't see the point behind these antiquated traditions. I wouldn't take my wife's name simply because I don't see the point in changing your name because you've married.

It's not HER name. It's HER DAD'S name.

Well currently we're talking about someone who doesn't exist, so it's nobody's name. But you're also making an assumption. Maybe she grew up without a dad and has her mom's name. But none of that matters, because it's also HER name. It was the name given to her at birth and the one she's lived with her entire life, presumably.

progressive guys rock wrote:

luv2run wrote:Why not just keep your names?

Because in-laws often object even if the husband-to-be is cool with it.

And you let your in-laws dictate? Holy smokes! Talk about weak!

Obvious Question wrote:

progressive guys rock wrote:

Because in-laws often object even if the husband-to-be is cool with it.

And you let your in-laws dictate? Holy smokes! Talk about weak!

That's right, because I'm not a heartless, insensitive bitch.

A friend of mine married a guy who changed his last name when they got married. Apparently, his childhood was a torturous nightmare and he sort of wanted to reinvent himself.

So they got married, then he cheated on her, now they're divorced.

So don't bother changing your name; there's a 50/50 chance your marriage won't last, and then what??

wait a sec wrote:

My wife has been gently bringing this up and hoping that I do it when we are married in about 8 months. So,...anyone?

First off you're making this up or an idiot. She is not your wife. You are not married. She is your fiancée.

Does your "wife" have a penis? If so go for it, she's going to be up your @$$ as long as you're married anyways.

If your wife wears the pants in the relationship, sure, go for it. Why not?

Pretty sure patriarchal naming is actually the only logical way to go about it. The y-chromosome will be the same for all men in the line. A man will give the same x-chromosome to all his daughters. There is no guarantee of which of the mother's x-chromosomes each kid will have. Now there is mitochondrial DNA, but there simply isn't nearly as much genetic information/variation there.

op_backhere wrote:

LOL, woah. I started this troll thread just to see if anyone would bite, and haven't logged back onto letsrun since. I didn't expect more than 5-10 responses. good job, kids.

2 ways to get responses on LetsRun

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-talk about sexism

I got married twenty years ago. I like my last name, my wife likes her last name. I kept mine, she kept hers. If we both hated our last names we would have changed our last names.

If I hated my last name and my wife had an especially cool last name why wouldn't I take it? To carry on the family name? We have no children so it will end anyway.

Clay changed his name to Ali. What's so important about a name? All this macho stuff sounds childish.

Does it feel good when she bangs you with the strap on?

So i know this post is older but i have a situation. My boyfrien and i will get married soon and this has come up, his parents seperated while he was young his he has his fathers last name and his father was an abusive drug addict he tried to kill his mom nd him on multiple occasions. He knows no family with his last name aside from an abusive father who has never made contact with him in his entire life. Would it still be gay or lame of him to take my last name to be a part of my huge loving family?? Im asking this because i want opinions good or bad so please be honest

Yes, it's gay.

girl. wrote:

So i know this post is older but i have a situation. My boyfrien and i will get married soon and this has come up, his parents seperated while he was young his he has his fathers last name and his father was an abusive drug addict he tried to kill his mom nd him on multiple occasions. He knows no family with his last name aside from an abusive father who has never made contact with him in his entire life. Would it still be gay or lame of him to take my last name to be a part of my huge loving family?? Im asking this because i want opinions good or bad so please be honest

I think its a good choice for the guy to take the wife's name if he either has a weird name, or in a situation like the one he's in where he's ashamed of his family name

Only if your wife is a beard.

Flagpole wrote:

I'm as liberal as they come, but no, you should not take your wife's last name. If SHE wants to keep her own name legally, then so be it, but for you to take her name means a lifetime of you BOTH having to explain it to others.

Also, because basically NO ONE does that in this country yet, you will be questioned by anyone you do business with about why it is that your name has changed. For a woman, she just says, "I got married" and that's understood. For you, they'll think you're trying to get away with something.

Do NOT do it. Seriously.

In other words, don't be man enough to do whatever the heck you and your wife feel like. Instead, bow down before the masses because 'NO ONE does that in this country'.

Hilariously pathetic.

Charles Nelson Reilly wrote:

Josh Hamilton's Addiction wrote:

If I were to ever get married, it'd ideally be to a woman who wants to keep her own name, rather than taking mine. I don't see the point behind these antiquated traditions. I wouldn't take my wife's name simply because I don't see the point in changing your name because you've married.

It's not HER name. It's HER DAD'S name.

Really? So your name is also not your name? It is YOUR DAD'S name?

Of course, YOUR DAD'S name isn't really YOUR DAD'S name. It is YOUR GRAND DAD'S name.

And YOUR GRAND DAD'S name isn't really YOUR GRAND DAD'S name...

You guys are probably all in your mid-20s and live in flyover states. In a lot of places on the coasts, traditional gender roles have gone out the window.

I got married to my wife at 25 and it never crossed my mind to keep my own last name. At the time we got married, my wife was 45 and a highly paid M&A partner at an Am Law 20 law firm (she still is highly paid, but now in her 50s). I was working part-time at a restaurant and making less than $20K/year (pre-tax, although mostly cash). That didn't even cover her clothes.

I'm retired now, but she's still a partner at the same firm. She gives my plenty of money, buys stuff for the house and for me, and basically lets me do what I want until she gets home. I can run as many miles as I want as long as it doesn't get in the way of my household duties. I run a tight ship and that's not a problem. When she told me to take her last name, how could I refuse? I have a pretty good gig. That's a small sacrifice, and I'm proud of her and her name. She's accomplished so much in life and treats me so well.

Trust me. Do whatever your fiancé wants you to do. Don't do what a bunch of anonymous young runners tell you to do. You'll be with her for years. The guys here will never be part of your life.

I like couples that combine their last names into something new and unique. Equitable as both parties have to adopt to a new name.