probably a man wrote:
Of course relationships vary, but your post just proves the point about an older man needing to marry a "weak" younger woman so he can CONTROL the decisions. In other words, he is weak, insecure, and can't handle a 50/50 partnership. This may make the man happy, but as the woman matures and grows up, often leaves her miserable. I completely disagree things go "more smoothly when a single person makes the decisions". Seriously, that isn't a marriage but more like an owner/slave relationship. It is the year 2013, not 1813.
you have a very clear definition of what YOU think marriage is and should be, and the only way it can be successful. People have a wide range of expectations from marriage. Ask a 27 year old woman who is dating a 27yr old guy and a 42 yr old guy if the relationships are the same, and she will reply, "no". they are very different. she most likely feels much more comfortable surrendering control to an older man. some may not - those women are not interested in dating older men, and so they will not.
My experience is that women prefer to surrender some control in a relationship, and they do not grow out of this. its not a master servant relationship. but there are very distinct roles for each partner, and they are not identical.
there is this peculiarly American idea that marriage partners need to be absolutely equal in all respects, or they will be unhappy. nothing could be further from the truth.
In my case, I control very little. I make the money, and manage it, but have little say in how it is spent. I don't pick where we live, I don't even pick my own clothes - my wife shops for me. If anything I'd observe that when I was in an "equal" relationship I was more of a control freak, because it was entirely unclear what I was responsible for, and what our expectations of each other were.