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Just going to be honest wrote:I don't think I am going to change. I don't think I should have to. To everyone telling me to lighten up... Who are we if we can't stay true to ourselves?
Only doing things you are comfortable with is a horrendously sad way to live a life.
First off, it may have been mentioned before but your attitude towards other people is extremely judgemental. I can totally understand if you personally don't want to participate in activities such as drinking, smoking, late-night snacking, etc; but calling people disgusting because they eat some candy now and again? That seems going a little far to me. As far as drinking goes there is certainly no need to go out and get plastered, but going out with some people and having a drink or two while hanging out with friends is fine (in fact, modest alcohol consumption has been shown to have many positive effects on health). I feel its pretty reasonable that you could remain true to your own values while simultaneously relaxing your attitude about other people. You can certainly learn to not be repulsed by people that eat candy while still holding true to your values and not eating it yourself. To be honest this alone would greatly open up the window of people that you could hang around with comfortably.
Secondly, you talk alot about wanting to stay true to your values. However, it seems like your not that satisfied with your life currently in large part due to the values and ideas you hold. You might want to consider at some point writing down and thinking about your values and why they are values to you. Are there good reasons why you hold them, and are they worth holding as values the way you currently do hold them? Maybe you'll realize some of the value you hold don't make sense or you don't have a good reason for them, or perhaps you'll decide your very happy with your values which will likely give you some closure and be happier knowing you are who you want to be.
By and large I think most of the problem stems from how judgmental you are of others. You can absolutely be you without having to be bothered, repulsed, or annoyed by behaviors you yourself do not support. Doing so is to impose your value system upon others which strikes me as unreasonable and unfair. Is there really a legitimate reason why others should have to live by the values you hold dear?
You already have a sense of this from other posters who have suggested you do things like go out and drink alot, party it up, get laid, etc; Then called you "uptight" and such when you said you weren't interested. This is not too unlike what you are doing to a large segment of the population right now even if you aren't saying it directly to the faces of the people you interact with.
Best of luck man!