MaryOK wrote:There is a world of difference between complacency and acknowledgement. A champion does not have to be unhappy about a silver medal to acknowledge the difference between silver and gold. For that matter, they generally do not look upon their silver and bronze medals with shame.
Champions never stop striving for first, but acknowledge, with gratitude and respect, all of their accomplishments. Stuczynski's coach failed to respond appropriately to her accomplishment.
Four years after touching a pole for the first time, Stuczynski not only made it to the Olympics, but won a silver medal. Four years after touching that pole, the only person to outmatch Stuczynski is a world record holder, with many more years experience. And Stuczynski has no reason to be unhappy about that.
Well said!
No one is suggesting that coaches coddle athletes or tell them everything's terrific all the time. The best coaches know how to balance praise and criticism.
I've worked with coaches who are very positive and encouraging--but know too when to push and apply pressure. These abilities aren't mutually exclusive.
Based on reports of this coach's past behavior, he sounds like nothing more than an abusive control freak. There are ways to present a criticism and ways not to.
Suppose he had first congratulated her on the silver and on how far she'd come in such a short time--then explained calmly ways she could improve next time. As in, "You're capable of going even further if you work on ___."
He simply lacked class the way he talked to her. Many winning coaches have success without having to bully and humiliate their athletes.