"We have known the fear of growing up with a father who is aggressive, controlling and violent." - Henrik, Jakob and Filip

And here we see the normalisation of family violence. That it is all too common doesn't make it right.

But you engage in verbal abuse here and it becomes normalized. So hypocrites are everywhere.

I grew up with a father like this. Whatever "greatness" he instilled in me (I'm successful in my field) came with years and years of physical and mental terror, that haunts your dreams even when you're 40 years old. And while you get to enjoy the perks of being good in something, most other aspects of your life are pretty messed up as you are constantly facing the consequenses of mental trauma.

It's because fathers like this more often than not have narcissistic and/or psychopatic traits and their "teachings" do not come from a place of love and care, but rather from their own personal need to experience sucess through you. They stop at nothing and they will sacrifice your entire well-being for success.

If you don't break on the way, you get to enjoy your achievements. But you're far away from being ok in every other aspect of your life and eventually require psychotherapy to function. Interestingly enough, you really then question whether "being great" at something is even worth it.

I get Ingebrigtsen brothers. They went through hell and are trying to save the rest of the family from Gjert, who most likely is behaving progressively worse.

If the only thing Gjert did was occasionally yell at them in response to their misbehaviour, then I am firmly on Gjert’s side.

If members of a family say they are being treated abusively none of us is in a position to say otherwise.

You are on Gjert's side yet you aren't a member of his family and you aren't in a position to dispute what they say he has done - or excuse it.

Wrong. They made a public statement, so now we as the public have the right to judge this case in the court of public opinion. They have provided no details and no evidence. Just vague allegations. Gjert has already disputed their allegations. Innocent until proven guilty.

You equate online behaviour on a site like this with the violent experiences some have within their family. You are a clod. By all means allow yourself to feel aggrieved by that comment.

Not excusing Gjert - I don't know. However, we can't have a society where people can just claim a thing and therefore it is true. Do you disagree?

What reason do you have to believe this, pray tell?

Public opinion isn't a court. It is simply people like you sounding off about things you have no experience of, which includes having Gjert as a father.

So you deflect and prove my case with more verbal abuse. If you were only smarter you could see what a hypocrite you are.

I got my butt whooped with an electric extension cord .. Times were just different then.. I'm not going to put my parents on blast in public. Yes they were wrong but why dwell on it?

I have 3 kids and have never lay a finger on any. Do I need therapy too?

The differences between hitting your kid and hitting your spouse are:

Kids are unable to hit back

Kids have no access to legal remedies

Kids are far more emotionally vulnerable

Kids are incapable of understanding that it is the hitter that is the problem, not the hittee

Are you an elite athlete that has to deal with said parent on a race day when medals are at stake?

The truth in this case is that his family have spoken out about what they consider is abusive conduct. None of us is in a position to say they are wrong. We aren't members of his family.

And again:

The differences between hitting your kid and hitting your spouse are:
Kids are unable to hit back
Kids have no access to legal remedies
Kids are far more emotionally vulnerable
Kids are incapable of understanding that it is the hitter that is the problem, not the hittee

It is a false distinction you are drawing. Hitting your spouse is also abuse.

True, but we are also not in a position to say they are right.

This is where the three most important words in the English language come in - "I don't know."