Old man don't ruin a young woman's life. Life's too short. She should be experiencing life and what it has to offer with someone in her generation. You'll be controlling her with your old man money and criticizing everything she does only because you lived it 30 years ago. Haven't you heard Lyin' Eyes by the Eagles? Show some decency and move on.
You must accept that she is marrying you for the money, even if your personality matched a 30 plus difference is not natural. You must also understand you will never be truly as close to her since you don’t share children, and that the child is respectful to you because you provide the $.
Would be illegal or at least a sackable offence in some countries, as academics are not supposed to use their job to meet sexual partners. Would they have met if she had not been his student or at the university in which he worked? No. Awful to end up with an old man like that, no matter what excuses make for people's behaviour. And no, having sexual relations with students at the institution you work at is not an example of "discipline". Probably got her a nice career and introductions though and he will be dead soon enough so she can remarry.
I believe she was valedictorian of her (Ivy League) undergrad and she graduated with honors from our law school, so I doubt she needed the help. I don’t see how it should be illegal for two adults to develop a romantic relationship as long as one doesn’t have some sort of influence over the other, and they supposedly complied with university policies regarding their relationship. I’m not sure whether it’s the same professor as rogermortimer mentioned, I don’t know enough about his work in that area (but his uncle was a US President if that helps narrow it down).
You must accept that she is marrying you for the money, even if your personality matched a 30 plus difference is not natural. You must also understand you will never be truly as close to her since you don’t share children, and that the child is respectful to you because you provide the $.
the stereo type is true, gold digger goes for older man.
however, I have a longtime rich young woman friend who hooked up with an older guy, we are talking 30 years plus difference.
You must accept that she is marrying you for the money, even if your personality matched a 30 plus difference is not natural. You must also understand you will never be truly as close to her since you don’t share children, and that the child is respectful to you because you provide the $.
the stereo type is true, gold digger goes for older man.
however, I have a longtime rich young woman friend who hooked up with an older guy, we are talking 30 years plus difference.
But we will meet soon, and it will work out great. Please pray for us, and I will have a follow-up letter that will open some of your eyes to things you think are impossible. (I appreciated every comment whether I agreed with you or not. You matter.)
You're engaged to a woman you've never met? No fool like an old fool!
I think I can guess which part of the world she's from! Can you afford the visa for 2 people?
This is the problem I see. While it's possible to "make a connection" with a person of any age, It is in poor taste to try to make a life with a person who is in a significantly different place in life as you. You have been 30. She has not yet been 60 or 50 or 40 for that matter. Frankly, you have almost nothing in common in life experience. Bad decision IMHO.
I will be 66, and she will be 29 when we get married next year. I have a friend who has a similar age gap in his marriage, and when I saw them together recently, I got a little bit sick. Would that be a problem for you? What if you were the woman? Would you get tired of the older man after a while and leave him? What about my family and friends? Should I expect jokes and teasing? Please treat this as a serious thread because she has a 6-year-old son, and I have no children.
She will either leave you or cheat. I do know someone who pulled off a similar feet but he’s a billionaire
Ugh. My dad remarried to a woman 16 years younger than himself. As an adolescent, I thought to myself, "what 29-year-old would be interested in my old dad?" She didn't have kids either! but I think she wanted to financial security - and she was also working out her "father issues," I surmise. Plus, I don't think anyone her own age would accept her, despite being pretty.
You should ask yourself, why is this person not accepted by someone her own age?
Sure enough, she spent all my dad's money, and she didn't have to work, so she had a lot of time on her hands. What is that saying, "idle hands are the devil's work?" She had an affair. which deeply hurt my dad of course (the betrayal, you know). I think this woman has taken years off my dad's life, the stress of her spending all of his money, etc.
Choose wisely!! Idk, I can just tell you my stepmom was looking for a "have your cake and eat it, too" situation where she could have financial security, but also wanted to have romance and a hot guy to $%^&. Marriage vows did not stop her from the latter, because that hot guy was not my dad!
Dude do you! You don't need us or anybody else for validation. Most marriages fail but it ain't because of age. As long as y'all are happy it doesn't matter what anyone thinks! People on this thread predicted Ingrebrestein would be a burnout after running 3:56 as a 16 yr old now look at the haters..crickets!! Lmfaoooo
Ugh. My dad remarried to a woman 16 years younger than himself. As an adolescent, I thought to myself, "what 29-year-old would be interested in my old dad?" .... Plus, I don't think anyone her own age would accept her, despite being pretty.
You should ask yourself, why is this person not accepted by someone her own age?
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when the difference is more than the age - hahahaha
Over the last few years I've had a couple of younger women - half my age - hit on me. ... Another one was a 28 yr old obese single mommie x 2 looking for a 2nd income & ready made dad for her kids. Lol. (she was 5-2, 215 lbs!).
Over the last few years I've had a couple of younger women - half my age - hit on me. ... Another one was a 28 yr old obese single mommie x 2 looking for a 2nd income & ready made dad for her kids. Lol. (she was 5-2, 215 lbs!).
She told you her weight?????????
Yep...we were talking one day in the crossfit room as I was stretching before my weight session (she was getting ready to walk on the treadmill).
She was telling me how she has struggled with her weight since HS & eats a ton of junk food because of stress. Then out of the blue she asks "what do you think my weigh is?" I reluctantly said "I don't know..maybe around 180 or so?" She laughs & says "not even close...try 215!" 😲
I thought about this post more, and the only thing that I can think of that can bring you two to have common ground (long term) is having a child together. Else she’s just going to be feeding off you with her child for basically your whole life. But the problem is you’re 66, not 56. It would be kind of selfish to have a kid that age, because he may not know his dad for long.