It would be better if she didn't go out at all or at least just with you. Bars are promiscuous places and drinking leads to debauchery. My mom says girls are not designed to drink, except maybe a glass of wine on a special occasion like a birthday, unless they are girls of the night. I would leave her fast. Even if she isn't drinking you can't control everything that happens on her night out so it is ideal if she stays at home with you
Nothing wrong with going out with friends. I'm my 20s I went out 5 or 6 nights a week. The issue is the drinking. I probably didn't have 4 drinks most months in my 20s even though I was out all the time. Now I likely don't have 4 a year.
It sounds like she can't go out with friends and not drink and that is a bad sign.
Letsrun is oddly teetotalers.
Like you I went out ALOT and now Im late 20s I still go out occasionally. I have no problems with alcohol.
My sister sat me down at ~25 and said "look now that everyone is past college there are two paths people tend to take. Those that start to pick up hobbies and spend their weekends doing fun and interesting things meeting new people. Or those that continue to just drink and their life is just Thursday happy hour, Friday go out, Saturday go out, Sunday drink while watching football. A few years pass they have a gut, they aren't very interesting, and their whole life is living to drink those 4 days. Which one do you want to be?"
It would be better if she didn't go out at all or at least just with you. Bars are promiscuous places and drinking leads to debauchery. My mom says girls are not designed to drink, except maybe a glass of wine on a special occasion like a birthday, unless they are girls of the night. I would leave her fast. Even if she isn't drinking you can't control everything that happens on her night out so it is ideal if she stays at home with you
It would be better if she didn't go out at all or at least just with you. Bars are promiscuous places and drinking leads to debauchery. My mom says girls are not designed to drink, except maybe a glass of wine on a special occasion like a birthday, unless they are girls of the night. I would leave her fast. Even if she isn't drinking you can't control everything that happens on her night out so it is ideal if she stays at home with you
You sounds insecure. Not a good trait.
Typical insecure, low-IQ response. "If you don't like what someone else does, then you must be insecure." This is always the butthurt reaction of idiotic women (and sometimes men) if somebody passes judgement on them.
Nah Banana Bread, and many others in this thread, just know how people who go out and drink a lot tend to act, and would choose not to get involved in long-term relationships with those people. If that makes you or others feel bad, that's your problem.
I’m 34 and I go out 4 nights a week on average (male in NYC).
Last week — saw a show and had two drinks on Tuesday, saw a movie and had a drink on Wednesday, had dinner at a bar with my girlfriend on Friday and had two drinks, and on Saturday I got high and saw the NY Phil.
everything that wasn’t with my gf was with friends
So your new friend’s behavior doesn’t seem strange to me. It depends on how much she is drinking. I also typically get home around 10.
I feel like the going out and drinking for fun. vibes start to rapidly diminish between the ages of 30 and 35. Second half of your 30s, if it doesn't seem boring to go out, there's something off.
Don't get me wrong, going out to restaurants and having a drink, or meeting friends occasionally for drinks is still normal for all ages. But people should lose that "going out to the club" mindset by the time they're around 35
I’m 34 and I go out 4 nights a week on average (male in NYC).
Last week — saw a show and had two drinks on Tuesday, saw a movie and had a drink on Wednesday, had dinner at a bar with my girlfriend on Friday and had two drinks, and on Saturday I got high and saw the NY Phil.
everything that wasn’t with my gf was with friends
So your new friend’s behavior doesn’t seem strange to me. It depends on how much she is drinking. I also typically get home around 10.
Ok thanks.
I don't live in a big city with shows almost everyday etc. she is mostly going out to meet friends and have a few drinks (wine or gin tonic are her favorites) and come back around 11PM-12AM.
A man should never tolerate this if he is pursuing a serious relationship. He should instead look at himself and ask why he picked sh.it for a partner. People need to take more responsibility for picking sh.it or eventual incompatibility, especially after a failed marriage. Getting divorced is a fail. Those who want to absolve accountability attempt to normalize divorce. If there are kids involved under the age of 18, a divorce should potentially be deemed child abuse. Do better.
I feel like the going out and drinking for fun. vibes start to rapidly diminish between the ages of 30 and 35. Second half of your 30s, if it doesn't seem boring to go out, there's something off.
Don't get me wrong, going out to restaurants and having a drink, or meeting friends occasionally for drinks is still normal for all ages. But people should lose that "going out to the club" mindset by the time they're around 35
From what she told me she's not in the " going to the club " mindset, however she's not just having "a drink" either. It's more like a few drinks until she gets a bit tipsy, but not wasted, and comes back around 12AM.
I feel like the going out and drinking for fun. vibes start to rapidly diminish between the ages of 30 and 35. Second half of your 30s, if it doesn't seem boring to go out, there's something off.
Don't get me wrong, going out to restaurants and having a drink, or meeting friends occasionally for drinks is still normal for all ages. But people should lose that "going out to the club" mindset by the time they're around 35
From what she told me she's not in the " going to the club " mindset, however she's not just having "a drink" either. It's more like a few drinks until she gets a bit tipsy, but not wasted, and comes back around 12AM.
Newsflash: People who are not in the “going to the club” mindset can drink at home.
She’s trolling for trouser trout. I suggest you get tested asap. Then find a girlfriend less promiscuous to hang with.