Everyone saying therapy what does this mean? The wait lists in my town are long and it costs like 200$/hr to talk to someone. I don’t understand how this will fix my feelings but I’ve never done it so I’m not sure. I’m not religious nor never will be. I used to drink and smoke a lot too escape these feelings but have really cut back the last couple years and only drink/smoke socially now. I’ve considered volunteering for kids and less privileged and will likely do so early next year once it warms up a bit.
1. Therapy, definitely try it, set a goal of at least two or 10 or however many sessions to give it a chance. I know there are therapy sessions online, I see a psychologist via Zoom, so that should skirt the wait list and hopefully decrease the cost (I live in Mexico so the cost is already way less). One of the main points of therapy is to figure out why you feel a certain way despite evidence to the contrary.
2. You mention having great family and friends but part of me feels like if you really had fulfilling relationships with them you wouldn't feel the way you do. And you don't seem that gung-ho about a romantic relationship, which is also something people usually look for when feeling unfulfilled. These three areas should be delved into in therapy and hopefully you uncover something you hadn't realized. Have you spoken to family and friends about feeling this way? In my experience, just about everyone understands this, and most have gone through it firsthand. Chalk it up to human condition. I get the feeling you don't think it's something you just need to talk about and receive compassion/understanding. Maybe you need to deal with it on an emotional level, maybe a logical level, who knows, but for sure exhaust your options. There is definitely no point in making money and having people close to you if you don't feel great. In the end the only point is to feel genuinely good and happy, and that's usually through relationships and helping others and investing in yourself and others.
3. Volunteering, also definitely a good idea. Again, I woulnd't say it's some miracle cure but if you set a goal of X times you might find that after a month or so of helping out you inexplicably feel a little better.
4. Good luck! I'm sure plenty of people on here would be willing to lend an ear if you ever need it.
I don’t have any dark feelings or trauma though. I’ve had a great childhood, I love my family, and my life is objectively perfect right now. That’s the issue. There’s something wrong with me but there’s no real reason for it. Trying to explain this people just comes off as bad because they follow up with something worse like “oh at least you don’t have dead parents” or “at least you didn’t grow up poor and attention starved” that’s what I don’t understand. There’s no reason for me to feel this way and it’s hard to convey that to others
There is no better point ever concieved why Universal Income is bad for society.
Looking to have a genuine discussion here about loneliness. I’m 28M, have a great job, running is great (2:20 hoping to OTQ in 2023), make good money and have great family and friends. I don’t have many other hobbies though (no video games, I don’t read, don’t watch sports really). I’ve been single most of my adult life with no serious relationships. Seems like I have mostly an ideal life right? But I’m so lonely I crave closer connections and am never satisfied with my life and goals. And to be honest I’m not sure how. Even if I OTQ, make 6 figures, own a house, get a relationship, etc it’s never enough I don’t think.
I tried online dating and it’s just not for me and going to events and bars and what not and it’s fun in the moment but never lasts. I tried new hobbies but they don’t stick or I can’t make time for them with running and work. Or straight up I drop them because I think they’re unproductive.
Does anyone feel the same way? Or felt this way before and know how to escape? I’ve felt this way most my adult life and I almost feel like I need some sort of tragedy or hardship to bring meaning to my life. I’m extremely grateful for situation don’t get me wrong though. Also, I wouldn’t mind having a relationship either but not many people I’ve met feel like a good match and to be honest in quite a boring person. Thanks for listening and would love to here other opinions, stories, or advice on this.
Online dating bars clubs etc only has to work once if you're looking for a serious relationship.
Would you run well in s race if you did a couple of runs and just waited for a good result.
Somehow dating does not require hard work. Waiting for fait. Garbage. Get out there and out in the effort. Do some interesting stuff so you're not boring to talk about. I did online dating singles clubs bars and a hiking club (the easiest to get dates,). None is better than the other get out there and don't give up with this not for me bs.. Put the work in practice dating don't jump in too quick.when you do find the right one.
Enjoy single life once you do settle down playtime is over make the most of it.
You've been posting nonsense on here for more than 10 years now and you still manage to outdo yourself. You must be deep into your 50s or 60s now.