Falling for a single mom! My family is not having it.

Your dad is 100% right.

You are thinking with the wrong head. And you already know that never ends well.

But it’s your life. Throw it in the s#itter if you want. Nobody cares.

bruhhhhhhh wrote:

I have a great connection w/ a gal I’ve been seeing for a few months(7). We’re both 25. She’s a single mom of 2, independent, and co-parents happily w/ her ex.

I wasn’t bothered by the single mom status but my family is giving me a big pushback & has not talked to me since I told them about her. They’re extremely conservative & basically gave me an ultimatum. Dads big speech went along the lines of “you’re dishonoring the family, there are many women w/ no kids, keep search, etc.”

I love my family but I also really like this girl. I think they’d really like her if they gave her a chance. What would you do if you’re in my shoes?

So your family are jerks.

Four pages of responses from an obvious troll post. LR must be bored, despite some heavy news over the last few days.

Breakfast In Bed wrote:

Four pages of responses from an obvious troll post. LR must be bored, despite some heavy news over the last few days.

And here you are.

sepreh wrote:

bruhhhhhhh wrote:

I have a great connection w/ a gal I’ve been seeing for a few months(7). We’re both 25. She’s a single mom of 2, independent, and co-parents happily w/ her ex.

I wasn’t bothered by the single mom status but my family is giving me a big pushback & has not talked to me since I told them about her. They’re extremely conservative & basically gave me an ultimatum. Dads big speech went along the lines of “you’re dishonoring the family, there are many women w/ no kids, keep search, etc.”

I love my family but I also really like this girl. I think they’d really like her if they gave her a chance. What would you do if you’re in my shoes?

So your family are jerks.

Tough love is real love.

Casual “friends” just tell you what you want to hear.

Don't break up because of your parents, break up because it's the smart thing to do. Look, there's probably a good reason your ex and her baby daddy aren't together and you're too young to settle right now. If she's willing to get divorced with two kids, chances are she's not that great at relationships - it's always two people who turn a relationship sour imo. Get a career, make some money and then find someone to build a life with.

No offense nor disrespect but you are too young to be playing daddy

I'm not saying join the HOH movement, but you have at least another 4 years of finding yourself.

The heart is a fickle thing

BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF FIRST

dis wrote:

Don't break up because of your parents, break up because it's the smart thing to do. Look, there's probably a good reason your ex and her baby daddy aren't together and you're too young to settle right now. If she's willing to get divorced with two kids, chances are she's not that great at relationships - it's always two people who turn a relationship sour imo. Get a career, make some money and then find someone to build a life with.

This is exactly what his dad is telling him. Duh!

Omg…

Who says anything about marriage??

If your happy right now keep dating her and see where it goes.

Maybe it won’t matter that she has kids. Maybe it will down the line. But finding a connection is rare and there aren’t THAT many fish in the sea that you would do life with.

A lot of these posts are coming from weak and insecure people. “Pay for another man’s kids” give me a break. If you become a family then it won’t feel like that. If you don’t feel that way yet, you have the right to protect your finances.

Anyways do you.

fffghhbjhvg wrote:

Omg…

Who says anything about marriage??

If your happy right now keep dating her and see where it goes.

Maybe it won’t matter that she has kids. Maybe it will down the line. But finding a connection is rare and there aren’t THAT many fish in the sea that you would do life with.

A lot of these posts are coming from weak and insecure people. “Pay for another man’s kids” give me a break. If you become a family then it won’t feel like that. If you don’t feel that way yet, you have the right to protect your finances.

Anyways do you.

Highly unlikely women in this situation are interested in "just dating".

bruhhhhhhh wrote:We’re both 25. She’s a single mom of 2, independent, and co-parents happily w/ her ex.

Her ex what? Her ex-boyfriend? Her ex-husband? When this is unexplained, I am often suspicious that something is purposely being hidden.

Why Marry her? I don't get it. Lets face it, If you thought it was the right thing to do you wouldn't be on this board asking opinions.

For every woman of a failed marriage with 2 kids there are dozens of hot single girls with no baggage. Go find 1.

My guess is that this girl is someone who wouldn't normally be interested in you so you are flattered and excited about it so you want to lock her in. In reality you should run away and you know it.

Flagpole wrote:

joed|rt wrote:

That is some terrible advice from someone who is supposed to be a financial guru.

1) I AM a financial guru. There's no "supposed to be" about it.

2) So, you are clearly suggesting this 25-year-old man should date whoever his Daddy thinks is ok in hopes of getting some inheritance one day? Man...only a LOSER would do that. Integrity trumps potential money any day. It's the son's life, not his a$$hole father's life.

3) OP, tell your Dad to f*ck off.

I am suggesting he considers his parents advice. Most of the people I know that married single moms had relationships ended in train wrecks, some ended up in jail. I know of one that worked and at least five that didn’t. He should definitely consider her financial situation as marriage has serious financial implications. He is 7 months into the relationship, which means his thoughts are more controlled by lust than by reason. I said nothing about inheritances, but he definitely needs to consider the financial situation he is walking into and the dynamics of her family situation.

pics?

The kids are aged 12 and 8. The older one can babysit for the younger one, so she can still go out most nights.

four pages and nobody has asked-cmon people wrote:

pics?

Thank you. It should not have taken 4 pages for this.

investing noob wrote:

Flagpole wrote:

Tell your parents, and especially your Dad to f*ck off.

So if your son told you he was going to marry Sha'carri Richardson (let's pretend she has 2 kids), and they get married and your grandchildren grow up to be just like her - and he tells you to f*ck off, you'd be cool with that?

1) My children can marry whomever they wish, or not marry at all. Not my call. My children are both adults. My wife and I have given them a good role model, and we have talked about what each of them might want to look for in a spouse (only when they have initiated that conversation). Our guidance and influence is over, UNLESS THEY ASK FOR MORE OPINION, and if they do, I will tell them it's just my opinion but that they need to do what they feel is right.

2) Your story about my son telling me to "f*ck off" has nothing to do with the topic of this thread. I would hope he wouldn't ever say that to me, but again, your example doesn't apply to the situation at hand.

four pages and nobody has asked-cmon people wrote:

pics?

You make a good point

Run.

You're young and you don't need the grief.

Just run.