No one said it's "ok". It's just completely disingenuous to hold Russia to a standard that no other nation on earth meets.
Ukrainians benefit when civilians die. There are videos all over Twitter of Ukrainian civilians complaining to Ukrainian fighters that they are going to get them killed. In one Azov set up howitzers right outside of a kindergarten and the principal was begging them to go somewhere else because the inevitable return fire would hit the school.
There's countless videos of Russians being fired upon from inside civilian buildings. When fired upon soldiers return fire.
If soldiers can't stand up near a building without getting shot they will reduce the building.
It is wildly dishonest to pretend this is just Russians wantonly killing civilians.
The people that are pretending to be the most upset about the killing are the literally the reason the war is happening at all.
This is 100% the fault of NATO, GW Bush, Obama and Biden.