Any men ever take their Wife's last name?

trackcoach wrote:

99% of the most successful married women in the world have their husband's last name, the other 1 percent use a hyphenation, zero percent kelp their own last name and zero percent of the husbands took their wife's last name.

Wrong....

The Chinese do not change names. Wives keep their surnames. This happens in many cultures.

It is a (recent) Western tradition. It is related to the ownership of property, as a compromise to those who thought women should not own property. A very new idea.....

trackcoach wrote:

zero percent kelp their own last name .

JK Rowling (billionaire)

Muccia Prada (billionaire)

Abbie Johnson (billionaire)

Alice Walton (billionaire)

Jacqueline Mars (billionaire)

More "zero percent" possibilities:

Polish media tycoon (and billionaire) Zygmunt Krok became Zygmunt Solorz in the 1980s, taking his wife’s last name.

Jack (born Gillis) and Meg White of The White Stripes

and, of course--although less directly--John Winston Ono Lennon

fan of elite running wrote:

wait a sec wrote:

My wife has been gently bringing this up and hoping that I do it when we are married in about 8 months. So,...anyone?

That would be the gayest thing ever.

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Dude, there is a reason this is a part of "Saving Silverman"

He is emasculated by his woman. She controls him. If she could, she would make castrating him part of the marriage.

Stand up. Man up.

I have met a few folks who hyphenated the last names. So James Harris marries Lisa Simms. He becomes James Harris-Sims and she becomes Lisa Harris-Simms. Kids then inherit hyphenated name.

Why not just keep your names?

luv2run wrote:Why not just keep your names?

Because in-laws often object even if the husband-to-be is cool with it.

wait a sec wrote:

My wife has been gently bringing this up and hoping that I do it when we are married in about 8 months. So,...anyone?

I'm as liberal as they come, but no, you should not take your wife's last name. If SHE wants to keep her own name legally, then so be it, but for you to take her name means a lifetime of you BOTH having to explain it to others.

Also, because basically NO ONE does that in this country yet, you will be questioned by anyone you do business with about why it is that your name has changed. For a woman, she just says, "I got married" and that's understood. For you, they'll think you're trying to get away with something.

Do NOT do it. Seriously.

wait a sec wrote:

My wife has been gently bringing this up and hoping that I do it when we are married in about 8 months. So,...anyone?

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Femme

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OP, How can she be your wife if you aren't yet married?

luv2run wrote:

Kids then inherit hyphenated name.

Why not just keep your names?

Then hyphenated kid marries another hyphenated kid and then their new name has 4 last names and 3 hyphens.

And the their kids ...

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luv2run wrote:

Kids then inherit hyphenated name.

Why not just keep your names?

Then hyphenated kid marries another hyphenated kid and then their new name has 4 last names and 3 hyphens.

And the their kids ...

In Spain, the children take on both the mother's and the father's family name through the use of a hyphenated name. It's actually a pretty cool tradition, I think. Everyone has a unique name showcasing the family union. Unlike in the states where there are 15 million generic, non-descriptive, bland Smiths.

Flagpole wrote:

A: I'm as liberal as they come, but no, you should not take your wife's last name. If SHE wants to keep her own name legally, then so be it, but for you to take her name means a lifetime of you BOTH having to explain it to others.

B: Also, because basically NO ONE does that in this country yet, you will be questioned by anyone you do business with about why it is that your name has changed. For a woman, she just says, "I got married" and that's understood. For you, they'll think you're trying to get away with something.

C: Do NOT do it. Seriously.

Flagpole opines from ignorance. Let me reiterate my (name changed) experience.

A: Bull. I probably have to explain it maybe twice a year. If it's a gov't official, it takes 1 sentence; if it's an acquaintance, it takes 3. As far as I know, no one has asked my wife, and no one, NO ONE has ever freaked out (or whatever the Flagpoles seem to expect)

B: I am in a client facing, highly remunerative business. It simply never comes up (and why would it?).

C: Do what you think is best for your situation and, as usual, assign proper value to "rationale" found on Letsrun.

Flagpole wrote:

I'm as liberal as they come, but no, you should not take your wife's last name. If SHE wants to keep her own name legally, then so be it, but for you to take her name means a lifetime of you BOTH having to explain it to others.

Also, because basically NO ONE does that in this country yet, you will be questioned by anyone you do business with about why it is that your name has changed. For a woman, she just says, "I got married" and that's understood. For you, they'll think you're trying to get away with something.

Do NOT do it. Seriously.

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Flagpole you have truly developed the most genius trolling persona on the net. It's a shame your skills are confined to a relatively small forum. I aspire to troll like you one day.

Flagpole wrote:

wait a sec wrote:

My wife has been gently bringing this up and hoping that I do it when we are married in about 8 months. So,...anyone?

I'm as liberal as they come, but no, you should not take your wife's last name. If SHE wants to keep her own name legally, then so be it, but for you to take her name means a lifetime of you BOTH having to explain it to others.

Also, because basically NO ONE does that in this country yet, you will be questioned by anyone you do business with about why it is that your name has changed. For a woman, she just says, "I got married" and that's understood. For you, they'll think you're trying to get away with something.

Do NOT do it. Seriously.

I love this advice - "be a sheep". Great.

Josh Hamilton's Addiction wrote:

Flagpole wrote:

I'm as liberal as they come, but no, you should not take your wife's last name. If SHE wants to keep her own name legally, then so be it, but for you to take her name means a lifetime of you BOTH having to explain it to others.

Also, because basically NO ONE does that in this country yet, you will be questioned by anyone you do business with about why it is that your name has changed. For a woman, she just says, "I got married" and that's understood. For you, they'll think you're trying to get away with something.

Do NOT do it. Seriously.

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Flagpole you have truly developed the most genius trolling persona on the net. It's a shame your skills are confined to a relatively small forum. I aspire to troll like you one day.

Nah...not trolling...was just trying to get him not to do it, but of course the REAL reason is that he doesn't need a wife carrying his balls in her purse.

Now THAT'S how you troll.

I have never had to "explain" my last name to any person, at any time, any where, ever. Of course, my last name is boring which is one reason no one cares, but I can't imagine "explaining" a last name really takes a lot out of you. Like that one person mentioned, if it takes more than 3 sentences to explain a name, then you probably don't have a good grasp of the language. Personally, it would be more interesting to talk about this rather than all the lame nonsensical "small-talk" that occurs anyway. I would much rather explain my last name to someone than talk about how it's sunny today - and tomorrow it's going to rain! .... Gag!

When my wife and I got married many, many, many summers ago, we created a new surname out of whole cloth. New family, new name. (also, our birth names were Smith and Williams - the ultimate in boring)

gotta runn wrote:

trackcoach wrote:

There are a lot of things we do out of tradition and accepting you husband's last name in modern time does not in no way imply ownership. Btw, this is not trackcoach, I am his wife; I am strong; credentialed; I have an established career and I accepted my husband's last name with pride.

Do you allow your husband to dictate terms to you all the time, or only on matters of tradition? You also probably opted for the traditional wedding vows that obligate you, as the submissive wife, to respect, honor and obey Mr. trackcoach all the days of your *shackled* life. That was your biggest mistake. Enjoy living in your husband’s shadow!

You are correct.

My wife wore a white dress and we did the traditional vows; however, I have not had any luck getting her to obey.

One important point. Life is complicated enough, why commit an unforced error, i.e., North West. Good luck explaining this to the families on both sides or how about having to explain this to your friends, relatives, your boss and coworkers. Perhaps as a young 'new age' woman it is no big deal, but why would you ask your husband to do something that will cause people to make a judgment about him for the remainder of his life and is absolutely unnecessary. - There is a growing industry called "laser tattoo removal", people are making a fortune off of decisions people made that at one point they thought was cool.

I know guys who have done it (and a few more who have gone the hyphenation route). One guy was physically abused by his father and was happy to change the name to his wife's last name (and that of her father, who was a great guy).

If it's not for you then it's not for you. I don't blame you.

I don't think it makes you less of a man for doing it. Asking for validation from letsrun.com, however, *does* make you less of a man. Sack up, dude.

hypenated name bonanza wrote:

OP, How can she be your wife if you aren't yet married?

That was exactly my thoughts and you are the first to raise it.

I think the OP can not distinguish between the words 'married' and 'wife'. Now he needs to get back to his jr. high school class.