Flagpole wrote:
By "separated" do you mean legally separated? Were you ever married to this woman? If you are just separated and not divorced, then she can't marry of course. If you mean you were just living with her and had two kids with her then since that was a bad decision on her part, you shouldn't be too surprised by this further bad decision (not trying to be mean...just keeping it real brother).
Since these kids are yours, and I'm assuming you love them, you could do two things here to try to stop this wedding:
1) Just tell her that you "care" about her and that there are mountains of evidence that marrying someone you hardly know just doesn't work out.
2) To protect those children, assuming you're not a creep, YOU offer to marry her instead. Pitch the great family life angle, even mentioning how convenient it would all be...no more visitation, etc. Not really very romantic, but you're not dealing from a position in which you can be.
If she's just a total mess that you can't bring yourself to marry her (and maybe that's the case) then you will have to grin and bear it. If the only reason you're not marrying her is because you don't "love" her, then in order to protect your kids from the beatings this redneck step father would give them, marry her.
You fell for it?!? Holy Cow, Batman! How much more obvious does a trolling effort have to be?
Wow.