Why do women only go for Chads?

You’re admitting that you’ve let YouTube bros brainwash you. Your entire way of talking has been poisoned.

Say what? I just explained in my previous post that I grew up in the pre-internet days before dating apps & social media - so I can qualify my position with the comparisons of the two time periods.

You don't think dating apps & social media have changed the dating landscape in favor of women? If not - and if I'm way off base - then let's discuss this logically instead of an ignorant one-liner you give me. Lol

Of course aspects of dating have changed just as they changed from the generation before your dating prime to your generation’s dating prime.

It is not, however, the dating apocalypse your YouTube bros have led you to believe.

These are very broad generalizations, but evolutionarily speaking, the optimal mating strategy for men is to have many low-investment sexual relationships with numerous women, and the mating strategy for women is to secure a long term relationship with the single best male possible. A second option for women is to simply secure the genetics of that high value man (Chad) and then have some other putz raise it.

This is all to say that women are naturally WIRED to go after the best of the best there is, and men are wired to sleep with lots of women and not commit to them if they have the options to do so. Modern dating apps etc feed into this and make it very easy for this exact combination to play out. A single Chad will have multiple regulars and frequent randoms coming and going, and women will give him sex hoping that at some point he'll commit to just her, but this rarely happens. The end result is the top 5-10% of men getting basically ALL the women, women never getting commitment from the guy they truly want, tons of guys in the bottom 80% (especially bottom 60%) basically never getting anything, and very, very few healthy long term committed relationships. The only people who really "win" with these modern arrangements are the Chads who are getting tons of women and sex without having to invest much. Everyone else kind of loses. But I would argue that even the Chads aren't living a lifestyle that is healthy and conducive to happiness and meaning in the long term.

I say all this as a Chad who currently has about 5 different girlfriends, all of whom wish I would commit to them.

Whereas you’re a real Chad, eh?

I also grew up back in those days. My eyes tell me plenty of decent to less than decent looking guys can still “get a decent looking girl”. Only losers sit around complaining about their inability to do so.

You need to looksmaxx.

Sounds like you're just interested in statistics rather than a relationship.

Stop blaming women for your lack of luck with them. If women only went for the top 0.1% then you would have more than 99% of men unmarried which is not the case.

Plenty of unintelligent and unattractive men have managed to get married so if you can't look in the mirror.

They don't only go for "Chad's" in real life.

The reality is unless she wants a long-distance relationship she is going to end up with a guy from her community. There aren't hundreds of good-looking 6ft+ men living in the same city, and if there are a few, they're probably taken.

And as a man, you have the ability the attract women based on things other than your looks. Think of it like this, if you're a woman, the ONLY thing you have is your looks (which fade). Men do not care what job their partner has or what grades they got at school or where they live or how funny they are.

But if you're an average looking man, that doesn't limit you because you can be the rich guy, the funny guy, the guy who lives in a cool apartment, the guy who can play the guitar, the guy who can speak another language fluently. And that boosts your attractiveness instantly. Just pick one of these things are run with it.

The thing with a lot of modern incels is that they lack self awareness.

I know plenty of well below average dudes that have a girlfriend almost all of the time or are married.

Here’s the problem.

Say you are in the standard deviation of attractiveness which most people are, somewhere in that 35-70th percentile range. No one’s looking at you going “ew he’s ugly” or “wow he’s attractive” which is fine cause that’s most people.

Now, when you are saying “why does she always go for chad?” your problem is that you are trying to get with a woman who is attractive enough to pull a top 10% guy, and completely ignoring those that are realistically in your shooting range. Then you blame all women and call them awful because the 8s and 9s you want arent willing to date a 5/10 with a loser mentality and victim mindset.

Would you date a 5/10 girl that only wants to date guys that look like Jacob Elordi, works at mcdonald’s, and has no social life? No?

Problem solved. Either improve yourself or stop expecting handouts.

im really skinny but i had a nice gf for awhile... i am 6 feet so maybe that counts, plus still in high school

She took one look at me and had to have what ‘ol Flex got

Same reason men only want Stacy but end up with Becky to be unhappy so they get OnlyFans subscription.

And yet, women are more likely to choose to be single in 2024.

The simple reason: Women do not *need* men anymore to survive, and definitely do not need men in order to find fulfillment in life.

Married men are more fulfilled and happier compared to single men; married women are more unhappy than single women.

Why? Women have leveled up in society, earning their own money, being independent. Conversely, men have NOT leveled up to match their same energy. Instead, they expect women to both a) have a career/bring money home and b) still take care of the household, cook, clean. And you are not entitled to being with a woman. You have to earn it.

Typically, women want men to be a partner by their side; but most men want women to mother them/take care of them.

I have a lot of women friends. They all say the same thing. One friend said: "I'm single and so happy just with my dog and female friends because being single and alone has treated me better than any man I've ever dated."

If your takeaway from this is still "women don't want me, grumpy grumpy pout" then no one can help you, and you're just holding out for confirmation bias. It's about mutual respect and partnership, not being an entitled brat.

There are some really ugly dudes out there. Focusing on your looks is the last thing you should be doing (besides basic hygiene and strength workouts.) So many other factors of attractiveness that are actually possible to improve on and way more worth it than just looksmaxxing. Also look into the story behind "The Beautiful Ones" rat experiment. Just an excerpt from the research on it:

"The few secluded spaces housed a population Calhoun called, "the beautiful ones." Generally guarded by one male, the females—and few males—inside the space didn't breed or fight or do anything but eat and groom and sleep. When the population started declining the beautiful ones were spared from violence and death, but had completely lost touch with social behaviors, including having sex or caring for their young."

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I have to start proofreading my posts. I need to go back and edit 10 things from this comment but can't. boo

re: Hello Sunshine

Among college-educated couples, the percentage of divorces initiated by wives is a whopping 90 percent.

97% of all Alimony and Spousal Support awards are going to women.

"Equal" partner my booty!