Translated in another way: "It's not you, it's me" - a close cousin to "I don't want to be with anyone right now - I need time alone to work on myself"
When you hear any of those, it's time to cut your losses and move onward and upward.
It means you are probably controlling or demanding or something, and "too good for her" is just a euphemism. Maybe they sense you're not the kind of guy to take disappointment well.
It means on paper you are what they are looking for in a man but they aren't actually attracted to you. They should like you, but don't.
OK. Legit response. Whose fault is that? That's her fault. If she SHOULD be doing something, then she needs to get in gear and start doing it.
This response explains the reason she dumped you. She doesn't care about your assets and she doesn't want you judging her on her on those attributes. She is not attracted to you on a physical or emotional level and you don't impress her friends.
She lies about the reason because she knows there is nothing you can do to change her feelings and she wants you to move on and leave her alone. Women are not that difficult to read or understand once you have had a lot of relationships.
She's trying to break up with you without hurting your feelings.
I doubt any of those women actually think you're too good for them, but they've probably all figured out that you're a huge narcissist; and so, a sentiment that inflates your ego will make the break up far more palatable.
She's trying to break up with you without hurting your feelings.
I doubt any of those women actually think you're too good for them, but they've probably all figured out that you're a huge narcissist; and so, a sentiment that inflates your ego will make the break up far more palatable.
That sure is alot of thinking and mental hoops to go thru instead of just being honest.
He did answer the question.You just need to understand the situation more clearly. She may well mean that it's you who is not good enough for her but would sound a bit too snotty to say that outright. This actually answers most of your subsequent questions but you need to understand that the business of dating. Looking for potential partners is rife with misdirection, indirection, obfuscation, etc. Deniability relative to intent is really important. Not laying all your cards on the table is important. Keeping options open is important. Not looking like a female dog is important and so telling you that you're too good for her does not make her sound nearly as much an entitled female dog as telling you she find you about as appealing as a soggy pop tart and should just go away. On the slightly hopeful side of this for you, that she wants to let you off easily COULD mean that she likes you well enough that she doesn't want to reject you in a way that would make it likely you'd never speak to her again. She thinks enough of you to want to remain on good terms.
This sounds like you are saying that you think she legitimately believes she is too good for me, and maybe you believe she is too good for me too.
If you actually saw my life and my finances and my house and my wrapsheet, and you actually compared it her finances and housing and wrapsheet, then you wouldn't be sitting there saying that you think she is too good for me. It's like night and day dude. She said her old bf was the leader of a Mexican cartel.
I do think she realizes I've accomplished more. I'm still siding with the person who said she is doing this because she still has a desire to kiss on other people and never settle down. Which is sad. I was ready and willing to give her free love and free housing abd food for the rest of her life and take care of her and her son for the rest of their lives.
Maybe she doesn't just want free housing and food for the rest of her life with someone she just doesn't love or feel a connection with. Why is this so difficult for you to understand?
She probably doesn't know the exact reason she doesn't want to be with you. You are assuming there is some logic behind it. Matters of the heart are always murky and she doesn't want to say anything negative about you. Would you feel better if she told you she was not attracted to you? Stop analyzing and accept that sometimes the feelings are just not there for both people and move on.
If she is clearly more physically attractive than you, it is possible that she is just not attracted to you and looking for an extra excuse.
But that isn't necessarily the case.
It could be that the perceives that you are actually a better, more altruistic person, or more innocent, which could actually be an incompatibility.
I once dated a woman who had the heart of a saint and it actually made it hard for me to view her as a romantic pursuit because it was like she was too pure to be defiled by me and my crappy outlook and behavior.
I means you're strictly friend zone material. She thinks you're really nice but has zero attraction to you. Being a "good" person probably means you're boring. It's not that she thinks you're out of her league.