I'm calling BS on this. If you're only a buck 40 on 5'8" frame - and I believe you said in another thread you're over 60 (?) - you're not getting hot women in their 30's...period
The exception to this would be if you're loaded $ - then yes you'll attract some young gold diggers out there, but they're only interested in your dough & not you.
I've had some acquaintances over the years at my gym who were about your age & built like you. They would brag like you on how they can score on all these hot women much younger than them. Funny thing I never saw them with - or - talking to any "hot, young women" at the gym (they talked to a lot of old bags in their age range 😆).
I got tired hearing about them bragging all the time in the locker room, so I started calling out these dudes putting them on the spot. They would make up some phony story that they can get pick up hot, young girls away from the gym. Lol. I then roll my eyes & would challenge them to bring in these young hotties to the gym & show me first hand. And you know what? In over 2 yrs, NONE of these guys have ever brought in any of these so-called "hotties that they claim to be able to pick up on. Now these dudes don't talk to me & avoid me at all costs (imagine that. Lol).
Anybody can say any crap on these threads to try and impress people. 😉
Hey FRTB, I would posit that maybe these men didn't want to bring a woman to their place of independence. If you enjoy going to the gym do you DO NOT want to bring a woman to the gym just so a pencil neck like you can see her. The strategy is to spend time together outside of areas of independence UNLESS they also like lifting/getting ripped too.
I am not saying these men were truthful about their escapades (many are blowhards), but rather if you are in this situation you do not mix gym with pleasure. A self-proclaimed "bodybuilder" like yourself should know this.
I'm not a "self-proclaimed bodybuilder" nor a "pencil neck" - that's a cheap shot. I actually competed in bodybuilding & powerlifting back in the 80's winning a bodybuilding regional title in 1988.
In the 90's, I transition to running & triathlon doing that for about 27 yrs before having to quit because of chronic injuries & post-traumatic OA.
I'm now back to non-competitive bodybuilding working out everyday (I go into more details on my workouts, diet, etc. in the healthy BF% for master athletes thread that was active last week).
Some of those old guys at the gym that I called out that are always bragging about dating young, hot women said they would bring their hotties to the gym but they never did (these guys claimed that their hotties also work out at another gym, so it would no problem for them to bring them in). And when I confronted them, they would make excuses that the timing is not right, or that she's going to be out of town for months - all kinds of BS like that.
The funniest situation was involving a very dimutitive 53 yr old guy - "Mark" (he was 5'5" & probably a buck 40 soaking wet. Lol), "Mark", who constantly bragged that his GF was a "super hot 25 yr fitness model" that he was dating for over a year now. He said his ripped, lean physique, maturity, and "charm" & "confidence" is what made her attracted to him. Lol. I'm naturally called him out on it & challenge him to bring her in to the gym. He basically gave me the finger & said he's not going bring her in just because I don't believe him.
Well one day after a gym workout, I needed to stop at Home Depot. I'm heading up to the self-checkout when I see Mark holding hands with some old woman with long, gray hair. I approach him & say "what's up dude...surprised to see you here on Saturday night." He says, "yeah...I shop here a lot...I just live down the street." He then proceeds to introduce me to his GF, "Gina," who had to be at least in her 60's. Though she was slender & looked in good shape, she was all gray, her face very wrinkly with a little saggy neck & her voice had that raspy, old-lady tone.
About week later, I see this Mark at the gym & start teasing him; "nice super model you had there." He gives me a dirty look & just walks off. 🤣 He no longer talks to me anymore at the gym & pretty much avoids me (imagine that...Lol).
Is getting grey hairs for single men a death sentence for dating? I'm only in my 20's but starting to see a lot of grey hairs. Is it over for me?
I swear most of the posts on this site are just trolls from some sort of idiotic AI. No real person would ask something this dumb. This is up with there with “sexiest job” and “my fiancé wants to post something about her dead ex”, etc.
Is getting grey hairs for single men a death sentence for dating? I'm only in my 20's but starting to see a lot of grey hairs. Is it over for me?
I swear most of the posts on this site are just trolls from some sort of idiotic AI. No real person would ask something this dumb. This is up with there with “sexiest job” and “my fiancé wants to post something about her dead ex”, etc.
The person who said that it is a turn off for women does not know women. You know what’s a turn off? A bad dye job. Turn on? Confidence and being yourself.
Not that People magazine is a scientific study, but I saw an article talking about the men included on their list of sexiest men alive that have grey hair. Richard Gere, Sean Connery, George Clooney, and Patrick Dempsey come to mind.
Not that People magazine is a scientific study, but I saw an article talking about the men included on their list of sexiest men alive that have grey hair. Richard Gere, Sean Connery, George Clooney, and Patrick Dempsey come to mind.
Sean isn't with us anymore. But I'm sure he has grey hair in that Scottish whiskey distillery in the sky.
Worrying about greying or thinning hair is classic beta male behavior. Countless celebrities have been considered sexiest man alive with gray or very little hair. Age with pride. Show people that you aren't a metrosexual weakling. And when that 15 year old high school female division 1 prospect tries to kick past you at the end of your local 5k, sweep the leg and catch her in the ribs with a friendly elbow as you break the tape.
Not just dating but even at work in terms of getting promotion etc.There is a subconscious bias aganist old age.They will ignore you and look for someone who appears younger and fresh.The answer is dye your hair.Do it properly, religiously with quality expensive dye not the cheap stuff from boots.
Not just dating but even at work in terms of getting promotion etc.There is a subconscious bias aganist old age.They will ignore you and look for someone who appears younger and fresh.The answer is dye your hair.Do it properly, religiously with quality expensive dye not the cheap stuff from boots.
Gray hair can be quite attractive. Dyed hair? Usually not. It’s hard for men especially to pull this off. I’d stick with the grays for sure. Obvious point others have also made: no one is dating you for your hair. Be wonderful in other ways! Once I dated a guy I didn’t find especially cute. As time passed and I got to know him, I began to think he was cute - his personality highlighted his smile, his mannerisms, his expressions. Girls can fall in love with a personality, and once they love you, you’ll be attractive to them.
Not just dating but even at work in terms of getting promotion etc.There is a subconscious bias aganist old age.They will ignore you and look for someone who appears younger and fresh.The answer is dye your hair.Do it properly, religiously with quality expensive dye not the cheap stuff from boots.
I feel bad for you.
I have been balding since 30, greying since 40, and at 45 I am in my prime at work.
Yea a friend of mine was short, had some grey in his hair at age 25 and always had no problem dating great women. Now married. He just had that confidence. Also could ski like nobody's business.
Lots of mentions of confidence, and as someone that didn't understand what that meant for a long time but eventually figured it out, it might be worth it to better explain.
For a long time, I thought confidence meant being cocky, loud, assertive, outgoing, etc. I wasn't naturally any of those things (or good at them when I tried to be), so my self-image suffered, and I also feared how others perceived me relative to this false stereotype.
I eventually realized that confidence was simply being comfortable with who I naturally am as a person combined with the knowledge of what I do to make myself a better/best version of that person. It combines keen self-awareness with acceptance of strengths, weaknesses, and everything in between.
As others have mentioned, "owning it" is the way to go, and fits perfectly with genuine confidence. When it comes to the grey hair, I think that means to rock it. Find the way to best present it (go to a real hair stylist and have them run through some options that will look best with how/where the grey is coming in). I wouldn't dye it. Artificially covering up something because you think it is a weakness undermines the confident, "owning it" vibe.