Kartelite - a law professor with whom I email fits this description. I was the editor on a law review of an issue devoted to criminal procedure decades ago (well known), and became aware of this professor's work as a result. His spouse is much younger, was a former student and is an excellent lawyer and now professor as well. They have a child, and by all accounts, it works for both of them, which makes me pleased. This professor is in the eye of the storm in the death penalty given where he works and the cases he assists on, and his justifications for eliminating the death penalty are not emotional or predicated on pursuing claims of actual innocence, which is rarely the case. I am always attracted to discipline and a focused sense of urgency, which both people in the relationship share. So every situation is different.
Would be illegal or at least a sackable offence in some countries, as academics are not supposed to use their job to meet sexual partners. Would they have met if she had not been his student or at the university in which he worked? No. Awful to end up with an old man like that, no matter what excuses make for people's behaviour. And no, having sexual relations with students at the institution you work at is not an example of "discipline". Probably got her a nice career and introductions though and he will be dead soon enough so she can remarry.
I believe she was valedictorian of her (Ivy League) undergrad and she graduated with honors from our law school, so I doubt she needed the help. I don’t see how it should be illegal for two adults to develop a romantic relationship as long as one doesn’t have some sort of influence over the other, and they supposedly complied with university policies regarding their relationship. I’m not sure whether it’s the same professor as rogermortimer mentioned, I don’t know enough about his work in that area (but his uncle was a US President if that helps narrow it down).
Old man don't ruin a young woman's life. Life's too short. She should be experiencing life and what it has to offer with someone in her generation. You'll be controlling her with your old man money and criticizing everything she does only because you lived it 30 years ago. Haven't you heard Lyin' Eyes by the Eagles? Show some decency and move on.
I will be 66, and she will be 29 when we get married next year. I have a friend who has a similar age gap in his marriage, and when I saw them together recently, I got a little bit sick. Would that be a problem for you? What if you were the woman? Would you get tired of the older man after a while and leave him? What about my family and friends? Should I expect jokes and teasing? Please treat this as a serious thread because she has a 6-year-old son, and I have no children.
I will be 66, and she will be 29 when we get married next year. I have a friend who has a similar age gap in his marriage, and when I saw them together recently, I got a little bit sick. Would that be a problem for you? What if you were the woman? Would you get tired of the older man after a while and leave him? What about my family and friends? Should I expect jokes and teasing? Please treat this as a serious thread because she has a 6-year-old son, and I have no children.
never raise another man's kid.
I've raised another man's kid. Turned out great for the kid, great for me, great for the mom.
I will be 66, and she will be 29 when we get married next year. I have a friend who has a similar age gap in his marriage, and when I saw them together recently, I got a little bit sick. Would that be a problem for you? What if you were the woman? Would you get tired of the older man after a while and leave him? What about my family and friends? Should I expect jokes and teasing? Please treat this as a serious thread because she has a 6-year-old son, and I have no children.
never raise another man's kid.
Well she's going to take care of another persons elderly grandparent..
I will be 66, and she will be 29 when we get married next year. I have a friend who has a similar age gap in his marriage, and when I saw them together recently, I got a little bit sick. Would that be a problem for you? What if you were the woman? Would you get tired of the older man after a while and leave him? What about my family and friends? Should I expect jokes and teasing? Please treat this as a serious thread because she has a 6-year-old son, and I have no children.
You're 23 and single.
No 66 year old that's thinking about getting married would be on this site asking those ridiculous questions.
Would be illegal or at least a sackable offence in some countries, as academics are not supposed to use their job to meet sexual partners. Would they have met if she had not been his student or at the university in which he worked? No. Awful to end up with an old man like that, no matter what excuses make for people's behaviour. And no, having sexual relations with students at the institution you work at is not an example of "discipline". Probably got her a nice career and introductions though and he will be dead soon enough so she can remarry.
I believe she was valedictorian of her (Ivy League) undergrad and she graduated with honors from our law school, so I doubt she needed the help. I don’t see how it should be illegal for two adults to develop a romantic relationship as long as one doesn’t have some sort of influence over the other, and they supposedly complied with university policies regarding their relationship. I’m not sure whether it’s the same professor as rogermortimer mentioned, I don’t know enough about his work in that area (but his uncle was a US President if that helps narrow it down).
You think wrongly then. It doesn't matter whether a graduate is top of their class and mostly everybody graduates with honors (do you mean c u m laude??), but if you indeed work within a law school, you will be aware that connections can do far more than being a brilliant student for somebody's career. Obviously the other connection you mentioned wouldn't exactly have done any harm either. Are you normally this niave?
She must be really career focussed and single minded...
I will be 66, and she will be 29 when we get married next year. I have a friend who has a similar age gap in his marriage, and when I saw them together recently, I got a little bit sick.
I read the thread title and opened it to post, 'Much younger isn't embarrassing; as a 42 year-old man I just married a 32 year-old woman and it's great.'
I laughed out loud when I saw your age difference is 37 years.
The main possible embarrassment is that you are clearly with someone who has profound mental health issues. If you are fine with everyone seeing that, go ahead.
No where in his post does he mention she's a "hot woman." And no way would she be a hot unless this guy is some Hollywood star or a very wealthy man (status + wealth = attractive women). In this case, she's looking for a beta provider for her & her young kid.
Could she be unattractive, obese, etc., and go for an older guy like that? Sure, if the guy is in really good shape & meets her looks threshold (to neutralize the 30+ yr age gap).
I'm 62 with a muscular, aesthetic physique with a full set of non-greying hair. I work out everyday at the gym training my 23 son a couple of times a week (I'm widowed).
Over the last few years I've had a couple of younger women - half my age - hit on me. But these have been very unattractive or obese women. One recently is 31 yr old MMA fighter who's very masculine, unattractive, wears no makeup & has a low, manly-type voice. Another one was a 28 yr old obese single mommie x 2 looking for a 2nd income & ready made dad for her kids. Lol. (she was 5-2, 215 lbs!).
There's nothing here for me to brag about. These are simply unattractive young women who have a fetish for an old guy who's muscular & in very good shape. And these women aren't getting any interest from good looking, in-shape guys around their age - so they figure they'll take a chance with older, in-shape that look very good for their age.
I'm 62 with a muscular, aesthetic physique with a full set of non-greying hair. I work out everyday at the gym training my 23 son a couple of times a week
I'm 62 with a muscular, aesthetic physique with a full set of non-greying hair. I work out everyday at the gym training my 23 son a couple of times a week
Hi Daddy - sounds like you need some bussy ;)
No...not me. I having fun training my 23 yr old son who's pursuing natural bodybuilder (he played college football & was a sprinter on the track team).
I was a national champion bodybuilder back in the 80's (I'm my 20's) before transitioning to running in my 30's. Due to OA & chronic injuries - back to BB.
My point is I'm just amazed at how many unattractive, obese young women there are these days (nothing compared to back in my day) - that can't generate any interest from guys their own age that they go for us muscular, in-shape old stiffs. 🤣
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I will be 66, and she will be 29 when we get married next year. I have a friend who has a similar age gap in his marriage, and when I saw them together recently, I got a little bit sick. Would that be a problem for you? What if you were the woman? Would you get tired of the older man after a while and leave him? What about my family and friends? Should I expect jokes and teasing? Please treat this as a serious thread because she has a 6-year-old son, and I have no children.
It's wonderful to see the comments, and many of you had great advice and wisdom to pass on to my future wife and me. I also care a great deal about the kid and feel excited about finally becoming a father, even though he is a soccer player! Many of you were cross-country runners in high school, and we always said that "cross-country runners are good kids." It's nice to know that, for the most part, that is true. Some of you made me laugh with your comments. Thank you for that too. A couple of people did accuse me of being a troll. That was just too funny and easy to ignore! The girl is great-looking and charismatic, which is what I was looking for, but we have only talked via video chats. But we will meet soon, and it will work out great. Please pray for us, and I will have a follow-up letter that will open some of your eyes to things you think are impossible. (I appreciated every comment whether I agreed with you or not. You matter.)