When I run with a girl I don't wear a brand new kit or pair of shoes that have never seen workouts. I want to filter out girls that are more impressed with running fashion than commitment to exercise.
If she is turned off by my blood and sweat stained workout shoes, half tights that are coming apart at the seams, and a singlet that has seen hundreds of workouts, then I wish her the best but she is not for me.
100% a good sign. She may like you more, but you just need to be friendly, relaxed, and maybe look for signs. If you get good vibes from her, maybe ask her out.
"Hey, you wanna run and go grab a smoothie at the place down town for protein?"
She's extracting resources from you (time, attention) but is she interested in the same kind of relationship you are?
There is not a single woman on earth that is “interested in the same kind of relationship” as a man. That doesn’t mean that you can’t use her back and get what you want as well. The main thing I’ve found with women is that as much as they like talk about what they want, they do not want you to do the same thing. If you want something from her, do not vocalize your desire. All it will accomplish is giving her the knowledge of something that could give her power over you, something she can tease you with and string you along while you give her everything she wants. This doesn’t mean being a “nice guy” either. You absolutely cannot pretend to be a woman’s best friend and expect to get something out of it, it will make her think you are pathetic and she will actually want to use and hurt you more because of it. You have to walk a fine line between controlling and dismissive in order to hold her interest.
Sooo a girl I like asked me to run with her this weekend, she’s not really a runner but plays is in really good shape. She says it’s because she won’t run long enough on her own. Is it a good sign ????? or what ?
Meat sockets, whether male or female, are a liability.
so is running with others. Don’t let other people dictate your pace. thus, don’t expose yourself to unnecessary risk and instead just train by yourself.
Pro tip: find a run with a couple of obvious ‘viewpoints’, where she can stop and catch her breath. Running makes them less crazy, fitter, more energetic, want to bang more often. It’s to be encouraged..
You definitely should run like over a big bridge or to the top of a big overlook over a ravine or something. I remember in Psychology class that the body gets confused by emotions. So there will be nerves from the height and she will associate that with attraction to you whether it was there or not to begin with ;)
how about just having a partner that likes you for you? Or is the idea here that one is fundamentally not “good enough” to be attractive so you have to play association games?
Run a couple of paces behind her, check her out, then outkick her at the end of the run.
The last time i run with a girl (recently) she looked into my eyes and said "Lets run the last meters fast". As she accelerated and made some meters in front of me i catched her and said "was that all ?". She accelerated again, completely underestimating me, so i had to outkick her badly. It was pure fun.
When I run with a girl I don't wear a brand new kit or pair of shoes that have never seen workouts. I want to filter out girls that are more impressed with running fashion than commitment to exercise.
If she is turned off by my blood and sweat stained workout shoes, half tights that are coming apart at the seams, and a singlet that has seen hundreds of workouts, then I wish her the best but she is not for me.
Run a couple of paces behind her, check her out, then outkick her at the end of the run.
The last time i run with a girl (recently) she looked into my eyes and said "Lets run the last meters fast". As she accelerated and made some meters in front of me i catched her and said "was that all ?". She accelerated again, completely underestimating me, so i had to outkick her badly. It was pure fun.
how about just having a partner that likes you for you? Or is the idea here that one is fundamentally not “good enough” to be attractive so you have to play association games?
^loser who only disagreed because it was rojo he was responding to. There is strategy to these things, as much as you’d like to say that love rules all and you just need to find someone you have a “connection” with, sometimes you have to work to make a connection.
how about just having a partner that likes you for you? Or is the idea here that one is fundamentally not “good enough” to be attractive so you have to play association games?
^loser who only disagreed because it was rojo he was responding to. There is strategy to these things, as much as you’d like to say that love rules all and you just need to find someone you have a “connection” with, sometimes you have to work to make a connection.
^brojos triggered posting on an alt account because they don't want to experience culpability for manipulating someone in a romantic environment and thusly subverting the foundational trust of consent. But hey, if you need to stack the deck because you're subpar, maybe you should lower your standards or increase the quality of the person you are. There are absolutely, as you said, things you can do to work to make a connection.