Try taking some action.. get spruced up, do some chores in the house, then a small gesture .. put you're phone away and go get some ice cream walk around the block.. were married, doesn't need to be a full blown sitter, date night, jewelery senario. People go all out, not understanding that her at home with you and the kids and pets having a drama free evening in a clean house is like heaven for her. So something small should really be enough. If it's not, you're effed.
at this stage a conversation is basically you begging for sex, makes you weak. quarantine has also impacted our relationship a bit. Maybe you can have a non sexual check-in conversation as a lead in.
I have no idea what your talking about with some analogy to division levels in college sports.
Men cheat.
And it’s mostly because their women don’t give them the sexual satisfaction to their levels of desire.
It’s not exactly blaming women. They are wired differently. Blame God.
Nope. Not God 's fault:
JUCO: not expected to be top notch; has room for sensitivity in relationships
NAIA: a bit more competitive but can focus on life balance and sport
Div. III: Quite competent with ability to focus when necessary but enjoy life (without depravity)
Div. II: highly competent with a solid drive ...may be treated worse if Coach has Div I aspirations
Div I: WIN! Only WIN! WIN your game, sport. WIN your woman. NO MEAT for the WEAK.
Slice it how you wish...the cross section of wife-beaters, sexual assault predators,sexual harassers, date rapists, and woman degraders, among those whom attended college....are primarily Div. 1.
I made a rule for myself a few years ago that I would never beg for sex from Mrs. Observer. Not saying that’s what the OP is doing necessarily, but this might be a useful point to make for someone. I realized that trying to wheedle sex out of my wife was the least attractive thing I could do. No wife wants to feel like she married a desperate man, a man who will do anything to get in her hot pants. She wants to believe she married a confident, poised, attractive playuh.
So when my wife turns me down, I say “Your loss” and leave the room. I don’t pretend to be happy, but I don’t argue either. She can either have sex or not, and I give her the impression that my life will go on regardless. The result: quality sex more often, and she initiates often as well, as she is committed to pleasing me.
I don’t do more dishes, more chores around the house, or try to set everything up special in order to get sex either. I don’t think that doing dishes makes me more attractive to my wife. I do things around the house because they need to be done. Personally, I think it’s a little pathetic to flit around trying to dust or whatever, all the while glancing at your wife to see if the next push of the vacuum cleaner makes her double over with arousal.
Your wife does not respect you if she lies to you. Once you accept this in your heart, You will know peace. Tell her you dont appreciate being lied to and that it is not something that should be a part of any marriage. If it continues then i fear divorce is in the cards. Im sorry but im a straight shooter. I dont bullsh!t
I have no idea what your talking about with some analogy to division levels in college sports.
Men cheat.
And it’s mostly because their women don’t give them the sexual satisfaction to their levels of desire.
It’s not exactly blaming women. They are wired differently. Blame God.
Nope. Not God 's fault:
JUCO: not expected to be top notch; has room for sensitivity in relationships
NAIA: a bit more competitive but can focus on life balance and sport
Div. III: Quite competent with ability to focus when necessary but enjoy life (without depravity)
Div. II: highly competent with a solid drive ...may be treated worse if Coach has Div I aspirations
Div I: WIN! Only WIN! WIN your game, sport. WIN your woman. NO MEAT for the WEAK.
Slice it how you wish...the cross section of wife-beaters, sexual assault predators,sexual harassers, date rapists, and woman degraders, among those whom attended college....are primarily Div. 1.
Across most sports.
Indisputable fact.
This in a juvenile american perspective using a really weak anology. Men and women are biogically different and men crave sex more often and on a more spontaneous basis. This doesn't excuse cheating but it's just a truth that we are taught not to accept in society. My wife (and probably no single female partner) alone would ever be able to satisfy all my sexual cravings. I don't expect that of her, so I deal with having sex less frequently than I would want. Sex is not everything, even if you think about it all day. There is much more to a marriage and life, so it all depends on your maturity and interests. Regardless, sex is good for everyone, so I highly recommend having it often. Go get some!
I made a rule for myself a few years ago that I would never beg for sex from Mrs. Observer. Not saying that’s what the OP is doing necessarily, but this might be a useful point to make for someone. I realized that trying to wheedle sex out of my wife was the least attractive thing I could do. No wife wants to feel like she married a desperate man, a man who will do anything to get in her hot pants. She wants to believe she married a confident, poised, attractive playuh.
So when my wife turns me down, I say “Your loss” and leave the room. I don’t pretend to be happy, but I don’t argue either. She can either have sex or not, and I give her the impression that my life will go on regardless. The result: quality sex more often, and she initiates often as well, as she is committed to pleasing me.
I don’t do more dishes, more chores around the house, or try to set everything up special in order to get sex either. I don’t think that doing dishes makes me more attractive to my wife. I do things around the house because they need to be done. Personally, I think it’s a little pathetic to flit around trying to dust or whatever, all the while glancing at your wife to see if the next push of the vacuum cleaner makes her double over with arousal.
In other words, play hard to get?
I don’t know that I would use that phrase to describe it. I mean, my wife is aware that I belong to her, and she to me. We are both fully committed to a healthy Christian marriage. Playing hard to get might indicate I’m avoiding sex with her, but that is not the case. I just take care not to make myself less attractive by begging for it.