My husband is flirting with another woman in our running club

40+ woman & recovering addict :

1- You're not gonna find real advice from online boards regarding this issue, so your first option is to consult a real thearpist.

2- Your husband might also be depressed regarding your situation, that's maybe why he might be looking for other options.

3- You have to tackle your drinking problem as hard as you tackle your training program. I lost a collegue (not a friend) du to him drinking too much. Even if they bought a helmet to protect him from falling and hurting himself, he didn't want to be helped and kept drinking until his last moments. So start working on your issue as hard as you can.

4- Try to surround yourself with good friends and family members. Ask them to help you as well.

5g enabled wrote:

100% troll thread designed to trigger the woman haters here.

I'm a real person. This kind of comment is hurtful.

I've had several years sober, relapsed almost exactly the same way you did and also claimed sobriety at AA, you aren't alone there by a long shot. Don't let it get you down, it's the disease that talks to us in weird ways. If you think AA works for you my advice is, well first let your sponsor know if you have one, but next time you go to your group just simply introduce yourself as a newcomer. That's it if you are feeling guilty about it, simply confess; that's literally what AA is about. After the meeting I'm sure you'll find company if group are like anything here.

Can't give you relationship advice, but from experience I just know the longer I lie about sobriety the worse my drinking eventually gets.

Are you serious about this post or just trolling? I mean it because addiction of any kind is serious business and many users here lack the maturity and empathy to even give an opinion.

Here is the answer wrote:

Start flirting back with some of the guys in the club. See how he likes it when the tables are turned.

No. Actually sleep with a few guys on the club. That will Really teach him!!

Your self-confidence is low because you are feeling guilty about drinking. You want to tell yourself you are a piece of crap for lying to everybody but give yourself a break because you are also human. Please try your best not to create imaginary problems just to push people away and confirm your feelings about yourself. Try and trust your husband but just do your best not too frustrate him with your accusations unless you are positive they are true.

It is easy to make your husband jealous(and any of us really). Buy posters of Bekele and hang them on your walls in each room. Talk about how he is the greatest runner ever and tell your husband he isn't a fraction of the man Bekele is. Whenever anyone or your husband talks about a run tell him or them how Bekele would destroy him and that he will never run like Bekele. The girl your husband is flirting with will be more interested in Bekele and will forget your husband

I stopped after "I met my husband in rehab..."

Do anal with him and he will lose interest in the young chick

Wuss alert wrote:

Who goes to bars to hang out at your age? Your husband sounds like a dud. Count your blessings he's latched on to another woman. Sounds like the perfect answer to your problems. Stop hanging out at bars, stop hanging around w duds and weirdos

That's pretty good advice actually. A lifestyle change might be right up her allie.

Flirt with her too

Real Person = Yes.

As described in your posts = No way! 100% Troll. It gets worse with every post you make. Now you are a recovering/cheating alcoholic married to a cheating/flirting substance abuser who also manages a liquor store! You have 2 therapists and an AA group. Haha - give me a break... If any of that is true you need way more help than can be provided here.

would he do this? wrote:

Would J. King troll on here as a 40 plus alcoholic woman in a failing marriage? Would J. King really lower himself to such depths?

This would actually be a step up.

OP, did you poop your shorts during a marathon? If so, can you blame your husband?

positive splits wrote:

Real Person = Yes.

As described in your posts = No way! 100% Troll. It gets worse with every post you make. Now you are a recovering/cheating alcoholic married to a cheating/flirting substance abuser who also manages a liquor store! You have 2 therapists and an AA group. Haha - give me a break... If any of that is true you need way more help than can be provided here.

My situation is very real. How dare you!

Jerry Maguire wrote:

1/10

If you have two therapists you wouldn’t be asking Letsrun

One of my therapists has a drinking problem themselves.

Simple advice wrote:

40+ woman & recovering addict :

1- You're not gonna find real advice from online boards regarding this issue,

How do you know?

I dont know, I thought it was pretty good. Maybe a little fruity though