ecoAnPac wrote:
Why on earth would I make friends at work, especially people I see outside the workplace - the amount of liability I’m exposing myself to? Seems ill-advised.
We *are* better than them. This sport creates a hierarchy, and if they “run”/jog, they’re on it just as much as we are. Let’s say best case scenario Greg, in accounting, can do a 5:40 mile because he does CrossFit. He’s the closest to where we’re at on the food chain, and I’m supposed to respect these people as equals? If we’re at work, let’s talk about work - like you said. But if someone wants to talk about running, they’ve entered into that food chain. I don’t have to respect or value Cheryl as a human being because she’s never paid any time or attention to the way that her body affects her health. I can value her for her thoughts and deeds, but on a biological level I feel like I’m obligated to give as few craps as possible about her because of how much distance there is between people like them and people like us.
The fact that you feel weird about hearing the undeniable fact that you are better than other people is weird because of you, not me.
Listen, I’m not trying to be an assh0le, but I have a Ph.D. and have been successful at work in a number of ways. Running is not my only distinction and that’s over for me anyway. I was a much better cyclist than runner, and honestly lifting has been the best thing for me. Tbh, running failed me - too many injuries. Maybe I’ve been humbled in a way you haven’t.
There’s not that many people I can have an interesting convo with. So I’m used to cutting it short.
And nowhere did I say that you should make friends at work, just colleagues or allies. You seem not to know how to get people on your side. It doesn’t mean you have to eat the donut or not eat the donut. I’m not telling you to engage, just suggesting that you develop a work personae that doesn’t make people want to fvck with you. People are remarkable in the ways that they suss out your inner thoughts. Develop the armor of conviviality and I really think you wouldn’t be so mad.