How to not cheat on a partner?

Some people are more or less destined to cheat. IDK if that is you, but if it is, I'd consider a polyamorous relationship. A lot of perfectly compatible people fall out because they are holding each other to a standard of monogamy that one/neither of them are incapable of meeting

Easy.

If it ain’t yours, don’t touch it.

find another girl or girls, you are not ready for a serious relationship at this time. Current one is ok but you aren't ready to be tied down, nothing wrong with that. Tell her it's not her but you need some space.

Finding other women attractive is fine and normal. Everybody has these desires. If the desires to be with somebody else are so strong that you are seriously considering ending your current relationship then you are not genuinely in love with your partner.

Zag wrote:

If the desires to be with somebody else are so strong that you are seriously considering ending your current relationship then you are not genuinely in love with your partner.

Horrible advice. This isn't at all true.

Asking the question indicates a lack of respect for the "partner". Time to move on.

If uncannbreak 4 minutes your want to cheat will begonen

Also Be honest with your girlfriend and tell her. Tell her you don’t want to hurt her and break up but you want to experiment Suggest it be with one of her friends so you can get it out of your system before you consider marriage.

Odds are good you will get a 3way.

If her name is Alex Forrest, run the other way. FAST.

alexmegoscarrots wrote:

CrispyChicken wrote:

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There isn't much difference between a self-absorbed quitter and a cheater as the OP demonstrates.

Eh, I work my ass off. I work 40+ hours a week and am training really hard. But I just hope eventually I stop feeling attracted to women other than the one I'm dating. Like I could just resist the temptation sure, but then i'm still mentally cheating, and unhappy.

Hey OP, there is nothing wrong in feeling temptation or “mentally cheating”, and it’s the most normal thing in the universe, especially for but hardly limited to men. Keep in mind that she may also have such desires even if she seems like a devoted angel to you outwardly. If you can resist the temptation, you have little to worry about.

Most couples are making a choice to be committed to fidelity and don’t suddenly stop having desire for others because they love the person they are with. It is *possible* for you to find your partner so desirable that you have no temptation for anyone else, but that would be extremely rare and you probably don’t want to be in that situation because if your current relationship doesn’t work out or you find that your partner isn’t faithful to you (give it at least 50% probability over a decade or two), you will feel destroyed and wasted for anyone else because she is all you ever desired.

Over time, if both partners feel like they want some variety, an open relationship with loved and trusted long-term partner isn’t uncommon either.

For now, you sound like you have a good thing going: a girlfriend you love and find very attractive and who seems to feel that way towards you as well. Mentally feeling temptation for other women would be a shame of a reason to kill a good thing, assuming that is the only thing about the relationship bothering you.

potato_salad wrote:

to ward off desire, buddhist monks are taught to think of all the unpleasant things about women eg bad breath, defecation and urination, body odor, things like that.

As a result of this very dangerous advice, some Buddhist monks developed a fetish for those things and can’t have enough of it.

TBH, I’ve never ever had the slightest impulse to cheat on my wife.

Do I still think other women are hot? OF COURSE. Every day.

In some fantasy life would I love sleeping with them? Of course. Sex is fun.

Would I ever actually destroy the life I’ve built and hurt someone I love by cheating on her? Never in a million years.

I’m here to help.

You are an immature douche and later in life she will thank her lucky stars that she’s not with you.

And you, IF you grow up (not a guarantee) will rue the day you left her for the flavor of the week. But probably not because you are a shallow immature douche.

Sorry to be the bringer of actual truth.

Although I love my wife and wouldn't want to hurt her in any shape or form, cheating on her just seems like too much effort. It's almost like dating over again where you have to pretend to be charming and interesting. I'm too lazy for all of that. In the time I'm not working or running, I just want to be hanging out with my wife and dog and posting on letsrun dot com message boards.

sleeplessinseattle12 wrote:

easy, just move to a far left place like seattle, portland or SF where the women wear no makeup and are ugly as sin

you wont be tempted to cheat anymore

Love this!

Your T levels are likely low as heck right now with the accumulated stress of training plus work so IMO that excuse is out the window.

It’s actually very easy. Don’t be a sh!t human and don’t put yourself in the situation where you can. It’s honestly such a child thing to do when all you have to do is split with the person you’re with them you can f*ck all day with no remorse. Be a man.

Can you elaborate on cheaters are predictable? I was cheated on and never saw it coming.

Sometimes we wonder if the wife is too hot, the husband must be well groomed with a good physique and remain exciting, spontaneous. She needs attention and romance. Either way, to maintain the relationship, do not be lacking in the nutrition of affection. They are not just friendships, romance is big.