"They paid all my expenses and gave me $1000 a month in allowance."
lmao
"They paid all my expenses and gave me $1000 a month in allowance."
lmao
My wife and I went through something very similar with our daughter. She went down the path of drugs and alcohol when she was in college. When we found out how much she was focusing on partying and neglecting school we sat her down for a long talk about priorities. We told her we would not continue to pay for college until she straightened her life out. She got a job and is attending AA. Hopefully she will decide to return to college at some point but at this point she is still trying to learn to live her life free of drugs and alcohol.
To the OP: You are wasting a very good opportunity your parents are providing. If you aren't able to see/understand this then maybe you aren't ready for college at this time. College is not just a big party, it is a place for you to get yourself prepared for your professional future.
$1000 a month in allowance? Your parents are in the right to cut you off seeing as your only job is to study and prepare for a career and you're producing zeros. Though they ought to consider that a grand in monthly spending money probably enabled a lot of this. I honestly can't remember having that much to spend for the entire term after what was left over from a part-time job. You're going to stumble quite a bit getting your act together but in five years time you'll look back and realize that your parent's actions were the best thing they could have done for you.
I would have stopped before the drunk driving bit. Entertaining read regardless
Way to go!!!
I always find it interesting when rich parents spoil their kids so much that they get averse to any responsibility and then drop them like a hot potato when the kid acts exactly how any kid would act who had no responsibilities. Bad parenting in, bad parenting out.
As for the OP, you are at a cross roads. You can whine about how your parents screwed you up (they did) and waste some of the best years of your life sliding by like you have been or you can buck up and take control of your life. To do the latter, get down to the fin aid department at your school and get loans for school and expenses. Crack the books hard. Study like your life depended on it. You do not need to turn into a monk. Go party and have fun on the weekend. But during the week, get your sh t done and then some. It will be hard at first, but after a few weeks, you will get used to it and will never go back to being a slacker. you will find that your grades will shoot up and opportunities for grad school and careers will also open up.
If you do not want to do that, drop out of school and get a crappy job. Find some roommates to save money on rent. Try to steer clear of opioids when you do drugs. They can get you killed. Don't commit any felonies. Those will haunt you for the rest of your life. When you are tired of having no money and spending all your free time with losers and a-holes at smelly bars, go get a job selling cars or insurance and enjoy watching your life blow away as the years go by and you go nowhere. I cannot tell you how many times I have seen that happen to people.
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$1000 a month in allowance? Your parents are in the right to cut you off seeing as your only job is to study and prepare for a career and you're producing zeros.
This. Why do you expect to get paid for a job you're not doing?
Figuring out what you need to do to succeed is a big part of what college is all about. That's YOU. Not your friends. Not some character you've concocted about the archetypal "normal college student." You.
If your friends are smoking and doing coke and drinking and they're still able to get by in the classroom, that's their business. YOU can't smoke and do coke and drink and still get by in the classroom. You've proven this. It's on you to adjust accordingly.
Quiz Show Champ wrote:
Spend the rest of the day making that plan in depth and include actionable steps. Then get to bed early, wake up at 6am tomorrow morning, go for a 10 mile run, and sack up and apologize to your parents.
This is right. If only OP understood his situation... He's too busy scoring weed and coke and will get around to finding fault with your advice a little later.....
I gave my response 20% effort. So it is appropriate.
Jhf wrote:
You're an adult. Stop bumming off your parents.
The correct answer. Why parents feel obligated to finance so much of a child's time in college is a mystery to me. It ought to go the other way to a large degree. Help pay down the loans after the degree is in-hand but only suckers pre-pay before delivery.
College Junior wrote:
. But now my parents just sat me down and told me that I am absolutely 100% cut off. They said they have concerns about my habits and who I am hanging out with.
I feel like I'm being persecuted here when reallly I'm just a regular college kid. But I have no idea whatsoever how I am going to pay for school. I need a way to get back in my parents' good graces.
I know I probably sound whiny, but I'm hoping for ANY advice anyone might have. Please, I'm desperate.
Vote for Bernie in November and he will pay for all your college. Then you won't have to worry about any student loans and you can just focus on maintaining your night time activities. Good luck son.
College Junior wrote:
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I know I probably sound whiny, but I'm hoping for ANY advice anyone might have. Please, I'm desperate.
This.
http://www.marines.com/homeThis is your parents you brat. Stop spreading slander about us and get to the library!
Also, you're wasting your one shot at college. Talk to admissions or whatever the appropriate office is at your university and arrange to take a year off while you work, get your head on straight, and figure out what you actually want to major in and what career path you actually want to follow. My guess is that you don't even know why you have your current major, or what you want to do with it. Put college on hold while you still have time to figure out what you want out of your education.
You need to wake up. You blatantly know you need to make a change; the path you're on is unsustainable. It will only get worse.The problem is you and until you come to terms with that you're going continue experiencing problems, both big and small.
I was just like you. Went to a small school on a decent track scholarship. Drank my freshman year away but ran mediocre enough that they didn't take my scholarship. Wound up on academic probation. Drank, smoked weed, and lived like a rock star. Cheating on my then girlfriend, had side chicks for my side chicks. You name it, I did it. Finally couldn't maintain that life anymore so I left college after 3 years of accomplishing absolutely nothing.
Moved home to live with my parents and started working full time. Got into more trouble; got a DWI. Continued partying...hard.
I always had an excuse or blamed the circumstances or someone. It was never me. Finally after a few half hearted attempts I stopped drinking and smoking weed and got my shit together by the time I was 24. You think you have it tough now? You have an opportunity infront of you. I'm 26 now, and the worst regret, the thing that haunts me is that I had a golden opportunity and I pissed on it. It took me years to reverse that damage and fix my mindset. Wake up and realize what you have before it's too late.
Finish the term then join the standard military, i.e. AR MM NV CG AF NG.
You are entitled, irresponsible and a menace to society. People like you are the reason that people hate white people. Learning to live by your own merits will be good for you. Your story reminds me of my wife's loser cousin who was given everything in life, partied through college, was a waiter / actor out in LA for years, and now lives with his parents at the age of 45, has no money, and has spent the last six months trying to get quack doctors to figure out a way to get his brain to work since he fried it with drugs. I guess this is how the redistribution of wealth takes place.
Dump the girlfriend, fly to the DR yourself and have fun-- don't forget your rubbers.
Is the OP Johnny Flopaholics little brother?
Did not read all of it. Join the Air Force or Coast Guard.
No scholarship limits anymore! (NCAA Track and Field inequality is going to get way worse, right?)
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