I coach and teach at an upper middle class high school. I have been coaching Track and CC for 23 years. The last 6/7 years I have had to deal with these crazy helicoptor parents.
Who:
Want to sit with their kid under the shade tent with the rest of the team, they are the ones that want me to make sure every kid puts on sunscreen, they only want you to make discisions based on the good of their kid or family. They call me and ask me silly questions about meets, training, etc. They bring food for them and make sure their kid is sitting with them instead of being with the team, they want special treatment when going to meets or want to leave early because they have to go do something more important than letting their kid stay and cheer on his/her teammates. They berate their kid for not running to their expectations. I have some great parents who support their kid but do not cross the line. Here is our parent guidelines for track.
1. Make sure your athlete is eating a balanced diet. No meal skipping, less sugar and fat.
2. Water, Water, Water. Your athlete should be getting a gallon a day; diluted sport drinks are good too.
3. Make sure homework is being done. Ask them daily about homework and school. Check to make sure, especially the under classman. (freshman and sophomores) They must have a 2.0 to run Track.
4. Please never hold your athlete out of a practice or a meet for discipline at home. Their team is counting on them. Home chores, taking away phone, computer, TV, video games, or grounding are just as effective.
5. ALWAYS BE A CHEERLEADER!!! Remember most athletes put enough pressure on themselves without parents putting undo pressure on them. All they need is your support and that you are proud of them. Coaches will take care of who to beat or if they should have done better. Never be upset by their performance or berate them for not running to your expectations. This will not be tolerated. Coaches will discuss this with you if needed. Don’t be a helicopter parent always hovering over them.
6. PLEASE COME TO THE MEETS! The teams that are the best have the greatest parental support for the athletes and the coaches.
7. Please support the fundraiser. We are facing budget cuts so this money we make may have to go to transportation and other costs. We sell a discount card for 20 dollars, each athlete sells 5. You may take these to work and sell them if needed.
8. The coaches expect every athlete to take the bus to our Wed. meets. They may ride home with a parent after the meet when the coaches dismiss them. If you take your athlete before dismissal for whatever reason, your athlete will have extra running after practice the next day and could miss the next meet.
9. When the athlete arrives at the meet please do not expect your athlete to come hang out with you in the stands, we ask that with some kids who are insecure that you encourage them to be with teammates.
10. Please respect your athlete’s space after the race, they need to recover and be with their team. Bring your own watch so you can time them, do not bug the coach for their time. In other sports such as Basketball, Football, Baseball, Soccer; you do not see parents hanging out on the field, they are in the stands showing good character and sportsmanship.
11. Do not live your life through your son/daughter. Help them become independent.
12. Please keep your negative comments to yourself when talking about a coach to your athlete; this behavior will put your athlete in a situation where they will carry that negativity to their teammates and to practice and meets. This is gossip and wrong.
13. Many athletes will come home and complain about a coach or athlete usually dealing with some decision the coach made. Let them vent but DO NOT get tricked into joining the emotional party. LET THEM VENT!!! This is normal!! Encourage your athlete to go to the coach and discuss this like an adult. When parents get involved it does nothing to teach the young person how to take care of their own problems. Parents get too emotionally charged up and think their problem should be the top priority for the coaches. It is NOT!! We will make decisions based on the good of the team.
14. Do not be a “Stealth Fighter Parent” where you pounce on the coaches because your child did not get on a relay team, or picked to go to an Invitational or running an event they do not like etc. We will be as fair as possible in picking the fastest athletes to compete.
15. Expect your athlete to be tired at times after meets and practices. Running takes tremendous effort, soreness, nausea, and general fatigue are normal.
16. Off season training will better prepare the athlete and help to keep them uninjured.
17. Be a good role model. Be encouraging.
18. Please don’t be a no-it-all even if you do know the event your athlete competes in. There are many roads that lead to competing and the coaches all have their philosophies for getting kids ready.
19. Monitor friends, hangouts, girlfriends, boyfriends, homework, and please have a curfew. Don’t smother them but know where they are as much as possible
20. The coaching staff will not tolerate underage kids going to parties where alcohol and drugs are being served, even if your kid does not drink. They have no business being at these parties. Police have informed us that at most parties with alcohol, weapons and illegal drugs are present. This is grounds for being kicked off the team and will be up to the discretion of the coaches. We have had parents put on the underage party and they were arrested.
21. We DO NOT give college scholarships, they are earned and a college coach will contact the athletes who are talented enough, we have nothing to do with this process.
22. Please watch the material rewards for running a specific time or place. Intrinsic rewards are more meaningful for personal pride. The team is greater than self.
23. Please do not baby your athlete; young adults need responsibility and accountability.
24. Give the gift of struggle, stop doing everything for them, and make them be responsible. Without struggle they will not grow up and will rely too much on you and feel entitled.
25. We will push your athlete at times and also teach them to do what’s right for the good of the team. We teach competitiveness, accountability, character, life skills, and mental toughness.
26. Do not come to practice to discuss your complaints, you will be sent away and told to email the perspective coaches below. Respect our time from 2:30pm-5pm and beyond this time for practice. Your problems at this time are not our concern, we have over 180 athletes to deal with and you trying to take this time will not work. An emergency is the only reason to come and talk to a coach.
Please respect the coaches after hour’s time even if you have their phone number, email works best if it is not an emergency. Calling a coach at home takes away from their family time and other responsibilities, we all teach a full load starting at 7am, so please respect this.
We look forward to a successful season and helping your young athlete become the best they can be.
Well their you go, evry parent signed this and did not have any problems with parents.
Monty