Do any of you still keep in touch with your high school friends?

Still keep in touch with a few good friends I went to school with. Good friends are for a lifetime.

Today I am traveling across the country to the funeral of one of them with whom I navigated the 1st through 12th grade with. He made it 52 years. RIP my friend.

I'm 30 and still friends with the same group of people from high school. I think alot of it has to do with demographics. We all grew up in a well to do area close to New York City. Many of us went to Boston area schools and thus stayed in touch while at college, often making the trip to and from our schools together. After college most of us moved back to the area we grew up in because there are alot of employment opportunities and its a great area to buy a home and start a family in.

From meeting other people my age around the area it seems as though most of them are in the same situation, most left for school but ended up coming back. I can see how this would be very different if we came from a tiny little town in the midwest or something. Many of us were also very close friends in high school and earlier so its not like we all hated each other and just hung out because it was the only option.

Facebook sure makes things interesting. I got on the year after I graduated high school, so most of the people I went to school with are on there. I wouldn't call it "staying in touch" though. Most of them I don't talk to anymore, but we're still "Facebook friends." It's like an evolving yearbook.

As far as high school friends I do actually still talk to and/or hang out with, it's funny because they are people I wasn't really good friends with while we were in high school. And the people I was good friends with in high school I hardly talk to anymore.

MonkeyMan wrote:

In my opinion, if you're only friends with someone on the internet, then you're not really friends with them.

But I thought you loved me...?

Bright and Sunny wrote:

What shines through this thread the brightest is how sad most of you must have been in HS. No real friends during some of the most carefree times of your life?

Very sad.

Totally agree. A couple times in conversation with current friends (I'm 27), I've noted how I'd love to go back and re-live high school again, especially knowing what I know now. Like you said, it was carefree: no real responsibilities, great memories from track/XC, school was even fun, getting to drive, attending sporting events, etc. I'm always surprised how many people I currently know have this visceral reaction against re-living any aspect of high school. They must have had really traumatic experiences or something. In my mind, the good times were amazing, and anything that wasn't too pleasant at the time just wouldn't bother me anymore.

I'm 35 and have mostly fond memories from HS...I'm also still very close friends with a few friends from HS (Godfather to one friends daughter). we try and get together a couple times a month (most are married and have kids now) sometimes more. it obviously helps that we live in the same city.

I graduated 26 years ago and I can still reach every member of my varsity high school Xc team by either telephone, e-mail or Facebook. There's a core group that includes 4 of my best friends from high school (2 of them were a year or two younger than me) and we make an effort to get together at least a couple of times a year.

We bonded over a lot of beers in high school and developed a friendship that will last the rest of our lives.

sighhhh wrote:

I'm only a 2nd year in college but I haven't really kept in touch with most of them. An occasional facebook post but that's about it. I'm always bored when I come home for breaks since all I do is run and sleep (and occasionally work if I can get a job) and don't really have friends to meet up with. Kinda sad. Anyone else relate?

While I was friendly with a lot of folks in HS , teammates included. But most of us urban kids more identified with kids from the block or surrounding couple of blocks. From HS and from your HS era get different answers by two year later not one and yes a few. the neighborhood I grew up in was changing so fast my block had 30 kids give or take a handful on it when I was in grade schoo.l By soph year it was 5 and we all went to different schools. Like the other poster seancebook is where many of them are 50 plus years later.

27 and have a small group of friends I have known since I was 13. I have other friends, some almost as close, but these guys are and will always be like family.

Two of us went to schools 300 miles apart. One joined the Marines and has lived in Hawaii and New Orleans for the last 8 years. One became a plumber, one a carpenter. We have had long stretches (yr +) without getting together or talking then we do and it's like we hang out every day.

Now 4 of us happen to have jobs in the same metropolitan area so they are my primary group of friends once again. I have lost touch(except through Facebook but that doesn't really count) with tons of great friends from different groups I've hung out with throughout the years. I don't think if I ended up living near any of them we could just pick up and be friends again like with this group.

I disagree with MonkeyMan. My two best friends from high school are still two of my closest, although I'm almost 28 and have spent several years abroad since then - in fact so has one of the guys and we've hung out/partied abroad together a decent bit as well, including traveling to Singapore together for an ultiamte frisbee tourney. There's a good chance we'll both be moving to Jakarta for work in a few months as well. Having someone you've known nearly your whole life and who you can party, play sports, as well as have intellectual discussions with is a cool thing.

This.

repeat silvousplait wrote:

This.

I would say, NOT "this".

I can see it now. "hey guys, this Joe he my BEST friend, I've known him TWO years!"

Friends are people that are consistantly in your life, through a myrid of different experiences and times of your life. So if ALL you have is running, or work, or HS, or college; then none of those are really great deep friendships. They are opprotunities to kick off a friendship.

*Just because you met someone in HS is no reason to toss them away or discount the friendship.

*unless these people are doing nothing but reliving old HS days or college frat days.

repeat silvousplait wrote:

This.

Only if you were a total loser in HS and had no real friends.

I am 31 and most of my closest friends are from high school. We all have good jobs, relationships etc. but still enjoy going out and getting blacked out drunk at least once or twice a month.

I am always leery of people who don't have long-term, lasting friendships.

Mos Def wrote:

Bubba Kush, Senior Citizen wrote:

To keep in touch with my HS friends I'd have to go on Seancebook.

POST OF THE YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nobody else finds "SeanceBook" to be hilarious?

I still hang with all my high school homies. We weren't shitting when we said we'd be best friends forever, and proceeded to tattoo our biceps with a bottle cap heated over the campfire. BOYZ FOR LIFE, YO!

mellow seeds wrote:

I am 31 and ..... getting blacked out drunk at least once or twice a month.

Are you bragging... or is this a cry for help? You're 31. Time to quite acting like you're 19.

I still hang out with some of my high school friends. Why wouldn't I? I've got a few friends I've had since elementary school.

If you're still just in college, it wouldn't be weird for you to call up some people over break to hang out, even if you haven't really talked to them in a year or two.

I only consider two people from my high school to be real friends, but there are about 10-15 who I loosely keep up with on FB and would be happy to see again if our paths could cross easily. I don't live near my hometown, and without the proximity to form new memories in person, I've found that I've kept little in common with most former classmates. I went to a small rural school where it was normal for a girl to become a SAHM near her own parents, and I've found that several of them either to think that I'm bragging if I talk about my career or travels or other activities, or else think that I should be an object of perpetual pity for not having a husband or children.