Why do I feel weird saying I love you to family?

I tell me family that I love them all the time. The only way it gets diluted is if you say it to people you do not truly love.

I often tell my father that I love him. Same with my mother and sisters.

I tell my daughter that I love her like 45 times a day.

If you really wait around to tell the people you love them "at the right time," you must not really love them.

Love isn't a moment in time, it is forever.

Is that a joke? I feel like this and I'm not a gay man. I'm a straight woman. Sociopathic bitch.

I have the same problem. It's gotten to the extent of me having problems breathing caused by anxiety of the pressure of my parents blaming me for not saying I love you. They get mad at me for something I cannot control. Like you, I can say I love you to friends and boyfriends easily but I just can't say it to my parents. It doesn't make people like you or me heartless it just means we have more difficulty expressing how we feel to our parents. I have no idea the route of the problem though. I'm sorry I can't help all I can say is that your not alone.

When did we become so judgmental that we've decided we have the right to tell other people what they MUST say to their parents? Seriously?

I have a coworker who ends every phone conversation with his wife and kids with "I love you". I really, really hate it.

"Hey, just wanted to let you know I'll be there by 4:30 to pick you up. OK. I love you, bye."

"Did you remember to call the doctor to cancel the appointment? No, I forgot, I'll call right now, OK. I love you, bye".

"They changed soccer practice to 3:00. I'm going to take the minivan. OK. I love you, bye."

"Yeah. No. Uh-huh. Yup. Sure. OK. I love you, bye."

And I have to sit and listen to this all day long.

So I guess if you don't say "I love you" literally 153 TIMES A DAY, it obviously means that you JUST DON'T CARE about each other and you may as well BREAK UP THE FAMILY!

I mean--really?

Ugh.

I can say it to my immediate family (mom, dad, siblings, and grandparents), but my cousins, aunts and uncles and what not, it feels incredibly awkward. I don't quite get along with or relate with them as much though.

Same as OP. I cannot say it to parents/siblings. They say it to me, but I can never say it back. Which then leads to them getting mad at me. I really don't know what it is. I can say it to other people, but with my family it feels too "close." I am a girl so this defiantly in not a guy thing.

I have also been around someone who overuses the I love you thing. Literally every time he leaves the house he tells his whole family he loves them/ every time they are on the phone. I think at this point "I love you" has a lot less meaning.

Clearly I can't spell either

*definitely

Sometimes I have to point out irony in a post. You first line is about not being judgemental of things people say it don't say.

So what do you do for the rest of your post?

I have this problem too, I am only 16 but as long as I could remember I couldn't say I love you to my siblings, cousins, aunts or uncles. Not to mention I won't even hug them. I don't know why but whenever they say it to me I get this weird feeling and I go into panic mode, I do love them but something is stopping me from saying it. I can say it to my parents and grandparents easily, or when someone I have sort of just met says it I say it back through text just cause I feel bad that they don't know how I feel about those words. Someone even told me they thought I was asexual or something because I can't give affection. Now my siblings tell me "if you love me you will do this" because they know I won't say it and I have to prove it to them. I hope I can get over it soon because the older I get the more guilty I feel about it because they just think I am rude.

It's not natural to say "I love you" to others. Love doesn't exist in the animal kingdom either.

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You never received unconditional love as a kid.

7/10 to the OP. This thread is designed to identify the dopey virtue signalers among us.

Who doesn't know the sappy dopes who make a point of telling others they love them while treating them like garbage? Who doesn't know the stoics who never drip unctuous platitudes but are the ones who will be there when it counts?

The words are for the weak. Actions and consistency are where the real work is done.

It's because you suspect that you are unloved and/or unlovable.

Mickey D wrote:

Hey, you guys aren't listening to 5Ker - he has hit it right on the head. Don't wait until you have lost your mom, dad, brother, sister before you learn to say I love you, or you will always regret it. It really is not so hard to say.

It is easy to say if true but hard to say if not true. I say it to my parents and to all except one toxic sibling.

Have never nor will ever day it to my siblings. Just not how we were brought up.

For parents I would say ‘we all love you mom (or dad)’ and that worked for them as well as for me.

Because you subconsciously ascribe to the tenants of toxic masculinity. Your emotional repression will ultimately lead to health issues for you and your family. Say "I love you" to them now and often.

Your welcome.

Mr. Moneybags wrote:

Luckily, I have been quite successful in life and can now say "I love you" with gifts of jewelry and new cars rather than words.

+10000. You got me laughing.

Reading this thread, I see the reason why there are so many serial killers and mass shooters. It’s like real emotions were lost when money and greed took over. One guy said he shakes his family’s hand and says good luck lmao. That’s insane.

Nine-year old thread finally gets bumped to be answered correctly: it feels weird because it's a lie.

It's all in the science. Natural selection sees to it that you love them when you have to live with them, but once you're grown up, things go into reverse. Your emotions turn negative so you will go out on your own, build your fortune and reproduce, instead of wasting contentedly away in their basement.