I struggled with loneliness on and off in my twenties, but now that I'm married and have a child, I don't feel that anymore.
Most of my coworkers are not married and have moved away from close family and friends. It's sad to me that when I ask how their weekend was, they generally have so little to report. Glad that you are filling your life with good things.
I would recommend marriage and having children - it provides meaning like almost nothing else.
Getting married and having kids isn't like flipping a switch. It takes a bit of time, effort, and good fortune. I also reject the idea that just because someone doesn't have some grandiose, exciting weekend (in your opinion) that it's "sad". For some people, reading a good book, having coffee/drinks with a friend, and going for a run in the woods is a great weekend.
Totally agree about the marriage and kids thing requiring time, effort, and good fortune. I would just say that it's worth the effort.
As for the second point, suffice it to say, that I would be thrilled and surprised if I asked one of my coworkers how their weekend was and they responded that they did any of the things you mentioned.
Getting married and having kids isn't like flipping a switch. It takes a bit of time, effort, and good fortune. I also reject the idea that just because someone doesn't have some grandiose, exciting weekend (in your opinion) that it's "sad". For some people, reading a good book, having coffee/drinks with a friend, and going for a run in the woods is a great weekend.
Totally agree about the marriage and kids thing requiring time, effort, and good fortune. I would just say that it's worth the effort.
As for the second point, suffice it to say, that I would be thrilled and surprised if I asked one of my coworkers how their weekend was and they responded that they did any of the things you mentioned.
lol where do u work? The men 30+ in my office are always doing interesting things. Maybe ur line of work
This seems to be a semi common thread ... loneliness. I crave being alone to do what I want to do, even if what I want to do is "nothing". I am alone quite frequently, but I don't feel lonely. This is something that I don't understand.
I'm in my middle 50s, don't have a lot of close friends - I don't really feel all that compelled to "friend" anyone, except that I understand that it is odd/unusual. I grew up an only kid in a remote/rural area and "played with myself" a lot. ;-) There weren't many/any kids around so I had to create my own fun or entertained myself, there was no other choice. I suppose that this part of my upbringing has persisted into adulthood.
covid killed my social life and further estranged me from my family.
so i found a new one. it began with me helping out during the 2020 civil rights demonstrations by blocking traffic with the local underground bike community in order to keep the marchers safe. that led into joining up with the greater bike community. i kept showing up to group rides, always helping with blocking traffic. made small talk which led to hangouts after the rides which led to real-talk, and now, just a couple seasons away from four years on, i have friends and an active social life again. that gave me the encouragement to reach out to a few old friends from prepandemic times who in turn reciprocated.
des linden was right about at least one thing...you gotta keep showing up.
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I'm thirty, I have a long time girlfriend (we don't live together). I am not lonely.
I generally don't like hanging out with people unless it's to run or grab a beer on one of the few days that fits in with training or few weeks between build ups. I used to hang out with people purely because of knowing it was good for you just like normal people try to exercise a few times a week. I like work and I like running and a few other hobbies which aren't very social hobbies. I like being alone and that doesn't mean I'm lonely
If you are a guy looking for a girl and go to church you should be able to get a girlfriend pretty easily.. they may be crazy and want to get married quick because of the whole abstinence thing but single men in the church at 30 is rare single women in their late 20s or early thirty's are plentiful... just don't be a creep about it.
I'm 35 and felt lonely until recently. But for two years now I've been doing airplane modeling in addition to my job, and it takes up almost all my free time, so I don't get bored.