should l be mad wrote:
For starters they were separated for 3 years before he died and he died 3 years ago tomorrow. They haven't been together since the Summer of 2017. She asked me would it be ok to post something on Facebook since he died 3 years ago. A little back story she gets a lot of money each month in benefits because he was in the military, but she had no problem kicking him out 3 years before he died. The never got officially divorced, but she had to call the police on him a few times. She told me without the extra money she would be screwed. Should l be offended that she wants to put up a Facebook post with her and him tomorrow to honor the three years he's been dead ?. I mean we are in a relationship. She still refers to his parents as her in-laws too. Should l say something? They were married for 6 years.
The guy is dead. A facebook post honoring his death should not be a big deal. They were married. Even if separated who cares. Like it or not she was married to him and it really has nothing to do with you.
Some people remain close to the family after a spouse dies, that is pretty normal. Especially if there were kids.
It seems insecure and controlling to care so much about this.