Believe me when I say that I understand where you’re coming from, and that positions of authority and consent and all that is important. But I have trouble believing that this boy thinks that he’s traumatized by any of this, he’s probably proud of it. I could be wrong, but this is my best guess based on similar situations I’ve seen. He’s also a javelin thrower, so there’s not a chance that he was physically intimidated by his so-called abuser; she may have had other psychological or school related powers over him, but physically, he could’ve thrown her aside at any time. You may complain that the legal system treats people of different sexes differently but I think honestly in this case it’s a pretty common sense thing. If there’s more to the story, and if he really is traumatized by all of this somehow, he can say so at trial, and the jury can proceed accordingly.
a lot of these people become traumatized because society will tell them they should be traumatized. self fulfilling prophecy kind of stuff.
Telling people when they should and shouldn't have trauma based upon your opinion of their life situations is wrong. Perhaps there's more trauma now because we are finally seeing it for what it is? Maybe my generation (born early 90s) recognizes that abuse and trauma are real and should be worked through, rather than buried under the rug for the next generation to have to deal with. This woman abused her position of power over a minor in an unacceptable and inappropriate fashion. Anything less than registering as a sex offender and some jail time is a miscarriage of justice. The physical strength of the male student does not matter at all in this situation- there was a power dynamic that was sexually abused. End of story.
Believe me when I say that I understand where you’re coming from, and that positions of authority and consent and all that is important. But I have trouble believing that this boy thinks that he’s traumatized by any of this, he’s probably proud of it. I could be wrong, but this is my best guess based on similar situations I’ve seen. He’s also a javelin thrower, so there’s not a chance that he was physically intimidated by his so-called abuser; she may have had other psychological or school related powers over him, but physically, he could’ve thrown her aside at any time. You may complain that the legal system treats people of different sexes differently but I think honestly in this case it’s a pretty common sense thing. If there’s more to the story, and if he really is traumatized by all of this somehow, he can say so at trial, and the jury can proceed accordingly.
a lot of these people become traumatized because society will tell them they should be traumatized. self fulfilling prophecy kind of stuff.
Very unsettling that someone with the username "high school xc coach" would have an opinion like this.
Perhaps boys hide their trauma because society tells them they should love it and think it's cool.
or perhaps they feel traumatized because they are told over and over again it is traumatizing.
trauma is real and it comes from different places for different people. but victim mentality is also not healthy and is something that is spread at dangerous levels in modern times.
but go on with your binary way thinking. most people are afflicted with it.
or perhaps they feel traumatized because they are told over and over again it is traumatizing.
trauma is real and it comes from different places for different people. but victim mentality is also not healthy and is something that is spread at dangerous levels in modern times.
but go on with your binary way thinking. most people are afflicted with it.
Your response to a story about a sexual abuse of power from a coach is "well, maybe the boy might only become traumatized because society wants him to be". That's your response as a high school coach. Think about that.
or perhaps they feel traumatized because they are told over and over again it is traumatizing.
Your response to a story about a sexual abuse of power from a coach is "well, maybe the boy might only become traumatized because society wants him to be". That's your response as a high school coach. Think about that.
And is it not worthy of consideration that a trial, and this woman being sentenced to jail for some length of time could contribute to the trauma for the boy?
or perhaps they feel traumatized because they are told over and over again it is traumatizing.
trauma is real and it comes from different places for different people. but victim mentality is also not healthy and is something that is spread at dangerous levels in modern times.
but go on with your binary way thinking. most people are afflicted with it.
Your opinion is very disturbing. You shouldn't be allowed around children. Or normal people for that matter.
Your response to a story about a sexual abuse of power from a coach is "well, maybe the boy might only become traumatized because society wants him to be". That's your response as a high school coach. Think about that.
And is it not worthy of consideration that a trial, and this woman being sentenced to jail for some length of time could contribute to the trauma for the boy?
So is it your contention that society should overlook the crime of statutory rape for the good of the victim? If so, you and high school xc coach are quite a pair.
And is it not worthy of consideration that a trial, and this woman being sentenced to jail for some length of time could contribute to the trauma for the boy?
So is it your contention that society should overlook the crime of statutory rape for the good of the victim? If so, you and high school xc coach are quite a pair.
Strongly suggests that each of them have acts they've committed that they're ashamed of and hope never see the light of day.
And is it not worthy of consideration that a trial, and this woman being sentenced to jail for some length of time could contribute to the trauma for the boy?
So is it your contention that society should overlook the crime of statutory rape for the good of the victim? If so, you and high school xc coach are quite a pair.
No, you completely misread what I am saying.
high school xc coach seems to be arguing that the trauma is minimal, or non-existent, or only results from people being "told to be traumatized."
My point is that he has no idea what trauma the boy has suffered, and that the trauma could include the additional trauma that would be caused by a trial, and the trauma of knowing this woman is in jail, possibly for years.
My point is that there is already trauma and potentially even more to come for the victim in this case.
My contention is that the law, and society, should treat these cases the same, whether the victim is a boy or a girl, and that the sentencing should be similar.
My contention is that outsiders have no idea what the level of trauma is. And I contend that the trauma can be caused from a series of events, including a trial.
So is it your contention that society should overlook the crime of statutory rape for the good of the victim? If so, you and high school xc coach are quite a pair.
No, you completely misread what I am saying.
high school xc coach seems to be arguing that the trauma is minimal, or non-existent, or only results from people being "told to be traumatized."
My point is that he has no idea what trauma the boy has suffered, and that the trauma could include the additional trauma that would be caused by a trial, and the trauma of knowing this woman is in jail, possibly for years.
My point is that there is already trauma and potentially even more to come for the victim in this case.
My contention is that the law, and society, should treat these cases the same, whether the victim is a boy or a girl, and that the sentencing should be similar.
My contention is that outsiders have no idea what the level of trauma is. And I contend that the trauma can be caused from a series of events, including a trial.
Thank you for the clarification. And I agree in large part provided that POTENTIAL further trauma to the victim isn't routinely used as a reason to ignore the crime.
So is it your contention that society should overlook the crime of statutory rape for the good of the victim? If so, you and high school xc coach are quite a pair.
Strongly suggests that each of them have acts they've committed that they're ashamed of and hope never see the light of day.
I just learned another thing. If a person sees this situation as a crime and not a frat boy type joke, they must be a sicko themselves.
i am not arguing that its minimal or non existent or whatever. im arguing that A LOT of it comes from the victim mentality that our society is in love with.
i am not arguing that its minimal or non existent or whatever. im arguing that A LOT of it comes from the victim mentality that our society is in love with.
if anything, YOU sound like a victim. constantly whining and complaining about one thing or another.
