Leaving my gf for someone else... How to let her down gently?

She's been trying to figure the same thing out for 5 1/2 months while already having moved on with someone else. We'll see who gets blindsided.

Dude, you said it already..."you are a good person, just not a good match for me."

If she tries to talk you out of it at that point, you just tell her that you don't want to lead her on and that you are doing her a favor by allowing her the chance to find someone who is better for her.

That's it.

It's the old saying. "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence." If you break up with your current GF and start seeing your new GF the same day, you're new GF may lose respect for you. She will probably be wondering if he could do that to her, would he do that to me? I wouldn't be surprised if in 6 months your new GF will be letting you down gently.

Drop her hard....like yesterday's bad news. She's gonna think you're a douche one way or the other. This way you will have burned the bridge and not have to worry about getting back together again. Rinse....repeat.

You weebs are so weird. America is truly doomed.

Do it like my last lady friend did

So over the course of a week become less likely to respond to texts. And don't answer your phone at all for a couple days. Cite tiredness or work.

Then spend 15 mins writing a text on whatsapp, then deleting it, then rewriting it multiple times.

A text that basically says "I like you but I just dont think we're right for each other at all" (ignoring the previous months)

Then when they try and call you, dont answer.

(By way of background. You know when you have an actual civil conversation and its clear that you disagree slightly. And that it bugs the fk out of her and puts her in a bad mood for days. But she wont address it with you and just lets it fester in her head. Thats what we'd had about a week before. So I had suspicion things might be ending)

Prepare a nice speech that initially seems like it is building towards a wedding proposal, then shift gears and tell her that from this moment forward you are done forever.

No no. This is alpha. New chick won't F around as she'll know he's a high value male.

Interesting. There were a couple whom I just texted but they weren’t that upset. However, if it were an actual relationship instead of friends with benefits, I think they’d have been more upset

Funny that this thread is currently featured on the front page of LetsRun and then the mods start deleting the replies, like my first reply with the Three Words that was highest rated.

Tell her it's the best thing because you got the advice on LRC.

Honesty is the best policy. Tell her you got all you could out of her, and that now there is someone else you'd like to explore. I would also encourage her to start talking to other guys as soon as the relationship is terminated. She needs to get a lot more experience with different personalities and stuff.

But yeah good luck man. Do not worry about hurting her feelings. We're all primates who evolved from a little bacteria bacteria. You need to take care of yourself first and foremost. She's tertiary.

What kind of advice are you looking for? You have already made up your mind and it won't hurt her any less if you tell her it's over because your feelings have changed or because there is someone else (it's the same thing anyway). The reason doesn't ever matter. It all hurts the same.

Whatever you do don't allow her to draw you into long conversations about what went wrong, etc. Do her and yourself a favor by being decisive and straight to the point and then cut off all contact. The longer you draw it out the harder it will be for her.

Watch videos of Bekele on youtube with her. Introduce him as the world's greatest runner. She will be so awestruck at the end that she won't care about you or any other boy when you break the news to her

I would advise against taking Letsrun forum users' advice on this.

(Along with every other topic tbf)

Microsoft PowerPoint will show you the way.

Make sure you get some goodbye booty...